Self-Criticism Archives - Carin Rockind

February 4, 2019 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

10 Days of Self Love – Join me?

Want to join me in a free SELF-LOVE Challenge? 10 days to commit to loving you? Then keep reading…

Do you ever call yourself names? Look in the mirror and say mean things? Berate yourself for saying the wrong thing? Beat yourself up for making a mistake?

Me too. I woke up thinking of an email I wish I had written differently. Then my brain started calling me names – until I said “NO – I won’t listen to this!” and I put my hand on my heart and began speaking to myself with kindness.

Self-love is a thing, but we’re never taught how to do it – or why it’s important. Quite the opposite… we’ve been told it’s selfish if we also want to receive. As women, our brains are wired for nurturing others. We love to give but one of the reasons that women are more depressed than men is that we ruminate more on the negative. We worry more. It’s great for taking care of others, but horrible for taking care of ourselves.

You deserve better. You deserve the same love and kindness you give to your best friend, your kids, your mail carrier! Inside of you is a sweet, tender soul that is so good, so beautiful, and so worthy of genuine love. You’ve overcome so much, you’ve been so brave to keep going every day. You are brilliant and unique and here for purpose – not despite your “imperfections” – but because you’re perfect with them.

International Day of Self-Love is February 13 so I’m kicking off 10 Days of Self-Love TODAY. Want to join? It’s scary and brave and going to be delicious!

Here’s how it will work: Every day for the next 10 days, I’ll post a Self-Love tool, inquiry, or exercise for us all to do on the PurposeGirls Women’s Happiness Network Facebook group, then we uplevel each other. (Click here to join the Free Facebook group!)

Then we’ll end with a “Grand Finale” totally FREE Self-Love Celebration class on Feb 13 that I’m hosting! It’s a class to learn 3 proven keys to self-love, purpose and joy.

Click here to register for the free class. Even if you can’t make the live class, register for access to the recording!

You are the only you!! And the world needs YOUR creativity, YOUR strengths, YOUR talents. We’re going to go beyond the mani-pedi and into self-trust, self-compassion, and self-celebration.

Join me on Instagram and in the Facebook group, and join the Self-Love Celebrationclass!

Plus, PLEASE share this link with 3 women who would need self-love and would benefit from self-celebration! February 13 is also Gal-entine’s Day, the day to celebrate our Girlfriends, so share this link so we build up a big ol’ sisterhood of self-loving Goddesses!

Together, we’re changing the world, one woman at a time.

I CAN’T WAIT TO CELEBRATE YOU AND SELF-LOVE TOGETHER!!

XOXOX

Carin

PS: Join my private Facebook Group to be a part of the Self Love Challenge!

February 19, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Why People Fail {video}

I was working on my first book when I learned why some people succeed and others fail.

I was 28 years old, newly divorced and the words were flowing out of me. My story of love, heartbreak, and how every young woman could heal from young divorce. I was sure I had a best seller.

And then I met a top agent from a top agency in LA and I was sure this was IT!!

But after reading my manuscript, he rejected my book.

Let's face it, at 28, I felt like he had rejected ME.

Having grown up thinking I had to be perfect at everything, I had no idea how to deal with this rejection. I felt like a loser and failure and the shame was more than I could bear.

So I gave up. For years.

I hear this story all the time. You were doing great with your exercise and eating plan until someone sent you candy for Valentines Day and months later, you're still beating yourself up and far away from the gym. You were almost done with your business plan when a family member got sick and you had to take time off and then you were too tired to start again.

You fall off the wagon and figure, “What's the point? I knew I couldn't do it.”

There's only ONE difference between people who succeed and people who fail. The #1 difference between people who realize their dreams and those who don't. In this week's Happy Monday motivational video, I share what that #1 difference is so that you can fulfill your purpose and succeed at all of your dreams. Watch it below:

Here's to YOUR purpose and success!

October 9, 2017 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Monday SPARK: Stop Being So Harsh On Yourself!

What if you told yourself that you're awesome instead?

This week, I want you to practice saying as many empowering, nice things as you can to yourself, and I'm going to practice too.

The truth is that my brain can be brutal. My mom was always concerned that I beat myself up, and if you're like a lot of my clients, you do it too. You're probably harsher on yourself than anyone else could be.

But to what end? Is self-criticism helping or hurting you?

This weekend, I hosted my new EMPOWERED group for our first retreat. After we all defined what it means to be empowered – speak your truth even if others don't agree, follow your purpose no matter what, know that you're enough as is, move through fear with courage – I asked, What's getting in your way of being empowered?

Under hard stories of abuse, abandonment, isolation and perfectionism was a common theme: We feel like we aren't good enough. But as we looked into each other's eyes, we saw something completely different. In each woman, we saw resilience, strength, beauty, and courage!

When one woman shared that she was afraid to move to New York, we all said, “You're going to be awesome there!” When one woman shared that she's afraid to be honest with her husband, we said, “We're here with you, you can do this.”

Encouraging words were way more empowering than the nasty self-talk. With encouragement, you reach goals. With encouragement, you thrive!

By the end the weekend, each woman was flying high! So your SPARK this week: Be your own best cheerleader. I'm going to quadruple my self-love, my self-kindness, and self-empowerment, and I want you to do it with me.

Fill in this sentence: By this time next year, I'll treat myself like…

For motivation, I taped this Facebook Live today and you'll see my very raw, very real emotion around this. In fact, I'll be doing Facebook Lives every Monday at 1 pm ET – you can watch them weekly here.

Not good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough – Stop feeling unworthy!!!

Let's take a stand for our worth, our purpose, and our most empowered selves!

To being our own best cheerleaders!

Carin