Carin Rockind

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January 31, 2019 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Ever wanted to start a business?

Have you ever wondered what it might be like to start your own business? To write the rules? To have something that's yours?

Years ago, someone said to me, “Do what you love and the money will follow.” Deep inside, I wanted to believe her, but it seemed so idealistic. So irresponsible. So impossible. 

Maybe that's because when I wanted to leave my first job, my dad said to me, “Carin, it's not supposed to be fun; that's why it's called WORK.” 

He said that, but he modeled something completely different. My dad was a talented and passionate architect who after 6 months of working for the top architecture firm in Detroit, left to start his own firm. It was hard work. He built the business from scratch, attracted clients, and struggled to survive the economic recession right when I was born. 

I know it wan't easy, but we always had food to eat, a roof over our heads, clothes and an annual vacation. 
He did what he loved and with a LOT of hard work, the money followed. 
We weren't millionaires, but we had enough, and most importantly, I saw my dad work his passion. 

So when I realized I wanted to do this empowerment work in the world, I knew the only way was to have my own business. 
But I was terrified. My Fear Brain screeched:
“Are you crazy?”
“Who do you think you are?”
“What if you don't make any money?”
“What if everyone hates you and you lose everything?”

So I held back from moving forward for 8 years. 8 years of depression. 8 years of feeling stuck. 8 years of feeling like a loser for not following my dreams. 

I wish that I knew then what I know now: It won't be easy, but it is possible. You can have work that lights you up from the inside out. There are so many people who can teach you what you need – from video to social media to accounting to legal needs. And if you put the time, energy, focus, and work in to doing what you love, the money will follow. 

I've learned a lot of this the hard way, so I want to make it easier for you. That's why on this week's episode of The PurposeGirl Podcast, I interview Genecia Alluora, the Founder of Soul Rich Woman, South East Asia's leading network for female entrepreneurs. Growing up in poverty, she started working when she was a child to pay family bills. She's overcome so much in life to lead a network of 11,000 female entrepreneurs across Asia. In this episode, she talks about mindset, overcoming limiting beliefs, and stepping out of your comfort zone. You can listen to it here!

She even inspired me to think bigger about my potential and impact. At one point, she said, “Put a dollar sign in front of your phone number and make that your goal!”

I laughed out loud, but I knew she was serious. Someone somewhere makes $6,464,830,000. So why not me? 
Why not you? 
That's what I love about Genecia – she makes you think!

If you've been thinking of starting your own business and you want some inspiration and motivation, listen here. Or if you have friends who have wanted to start a business, send them this link to listen. 

And in the meantime, here are a few Purpose Power Tips for you:
1. Get clear on your purpose: Purpose is the active way you uniquely impact the world in a way that lights you up. It's being your true self and doing all that's in your heart. It's your why. Research shows that people who have purpose are happier, less depressed, and more optimistic and resilient through challenges. Get clear on who you are, what you're passionate about, and the impact you want to make on the world. 

2. Write your goals: People who have written goals are more likely to achieve them. Be clear and specific, and hold yourself accountable. Even better to have someone else hold you accountable! Then celebrate EVERY small step! Even Googling “how to set up taxes” is a step, so celebrate that. Brain research shows that positivity tells your brain “do more of this” so celebrate it all!

3. Adopt a positive mindset: Our brains try to stop us by telling us what we can't do, so we have to flip our mindset from “I can't” to “How can I?” From ‘I don't know how” to “Who can help?” Even if you have a “failure” – ask what you can learn and move on. Take every objection your brain says and flip it into a question that puts you into forward action. 

You have it in you to create anything you desire. It probably won't be easy. And it will definitely take work. But my love, you've done hard things before and you do hard work EVERY DAY. You may as well do it for something you're passionate about and is on purpose for you. 

To your success!

XO,

Carin

Filed Under: Empowerment, Purpose Tagged With: Change, Intention

July 9, 2018 By Carin Rockind 2 Comments

How To Be On Purpose At Work

“I can't just leave my job and family to follow my dream!” My client was in tears. Her heart craved purpose but she felt trapped and defeated.

She's not alone. Most of us yearn to make a difference. It's part of our human nature. We're social animals so we're wired to want to support our tribe and do our part to impact the greater good.
Living on purpose means that you're intentional in actively making a unique impact on others' lives. 

When Josh and I got married 4 years ago, my wedding dress was super low cut in back. I tried every expensive lingerie store I could think of and couldn't find the right bra. Then just a few days before the wedding, I went to Victoria's Secret and the sales associate gently took my hand and showed me the perfect product. I jumped up and down, hugging her. That day, she lived a greater purpose: Me feeling great on my wedding day.

My dear friend Bonnie passed away of breast cancer last year. She and I were once at a retreat where we shared our deepest body shame. With tears streaming down her face, she slowly took off her shirt and showed me her flat chest where her breasts had once been. A lump filled my throat as I told her how beautiful she is. She shared how she once spent a day shopping for pretty bras and panties and how it made her feel like a beautiful woman.

Fast forward, I was recently facilitating Victoria's Secret executives in a half-day workshop on Flourishing. I shared Bonnie's story and the room fell silent. “What's your purpose?” I asked them. “Not your sales goals or manufacturing goals. From the highest, most elevated place, what do you want your customers to think of you? How do you want them to feel when in your store or wearing your products?”

“Beautiful,” one person whispered.
“Inspired.” said another.
“Alive!”

They continued to paint a gorgeous, heartfelt, powerful and meaningful vision. They imagined how women's lives can be forever changed through their work. They dreamt bigger and more expansively than ever before. My heart soared with inspiration and excitement.

Afterwards, someone came up to me in tears saying, “I have a teenage daughter, so this really hit home.” Living on purpose at work can make a difference at home too. We talked about how the team can make a huge difference for girls and women globally, just by thinking of purpose every day at work.

You can too. Ask yourself and your team:

  • What's our bigger mission here?
  • How do we make a difference in the lives of others?
  • How can I make a difference right here and now?

According to Gallup, only 30% of the U.S. workforce is actively engaged and excited about their work, but when we work with purpose, that changes. According to a 2016 LinkedIn survey, employees who are purpose-focused outperform their colleagues on almost every metric.

Put simply, with purpose, you'll be more successful and enjoy your work more. With purpose, you'll enjoy your life more. 

This doesn't mean that you give up on your other dreams. On the contrary – purpose in one area of life leads to purpose in every area of life.If you have a dream of writing your memoir, someone needs to hear your story. If you secretly yearn to paint, then your unique vision is meant to be shared. If you wish you could go back to school to teach, then one day you need to. We only get this one life to fulfill our deepest dreams.

And in the meantime, while you create a plan toward your heart desires, you can begin living on purpose right here, right now, right where you are. It's not either/or. It's both/and. And you can begin today.

In fact, living on purpose NOW is the fastest route to living on purpose in life. So how will you live on purpose today? Post in the comments below!

Filed Under: Purpose

March 4, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Are You Pretending? Do You Live By SHOULDS?

“I don’t know what I want.”
“I just want to be happy.”
“I feel lost.”

When I first met Libby, she was the first to admit she was not living the life she had dreamt of for herself. Although she kept appearances expertly, her life felt hollow.

The thing was, to all outside observers, Libby looked like she had it all together. She looked happy. The online version of Libby was thriving: she went to Princeton, she made a great paycheck at a hot new startup in San Francisco. When people asked how she was doing she told them she was Great! In that false chipper voice that only half disguised how unhappy she really was.

But underneath she was in deep pain. She was on autopilot, hammering through her days, toughing it out until the weekend when she drowned out the emptiness every way she knew how.

She was cruel to her body.
She numbed her pain.
She pretended her way through life.

When we first met, I asked her what she really wanted – deeply, truly wanted.
And then we got clear what was getting in her way of having it.
I took her through powerful exercises to get clear on the masks Libby was wearing: all the SHOULDS in her life that were trapping her in unhealthy patterns.

It turns out that Libby’s SHOULDS had a powerful hold on her. Maybe you can relate. After untangling a web of fears keeping her from living her most joyful life, we got clear on Libby’s innermost desire: she wanted to be a writer.

Step by step, we created her path to purpose.
She first left her tech sales job and city life in San Francisco to travel the world.
She then started caring for her body, mind, and spirit.
And now, she has nearly finished her first book.

Libby transitioned from living a life of SHOULDS to a life of purpose, and it has completely transformed her life.

Every single one of us has an innate, deep-seated purpose in life, and when we peel back the layers of SHOULDS, when we drop the masks, when we discover who we truly are and what we deeply desire, we step into our true selves and greatest happiness.

You, too, need to drop the SHOULDS to activate your happiest life. And I want to teach you how.

If Libby's story resonates with you, if you're tired of living according to the SHOULDS and crave deeper happiness and fulfillment, I invite you to click here and get in touch with me. Let's talk.

 

XO,

Carin

Filed Under: Happiness, Purpose Tagged With: Change, Happiness

February 27, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Life Wasn’t Supposed to Be This Way…

“I feel stuck.”
“I’ve made a lot of choices to please others, instead of myself.”
“I want to feel again – all the feelings – joy passion, love.”
“I'm not living up to my potential, my dreams. Something got lost along the way.”
“Life just wasn't supposed to be this way.”

Have you ever said any of these things to yourself? I know I have.
I just finished my first 5 Day Purpose Course and these are just some of the comments that the women shared about why they were taking a course with me to live on purpose.

My heart sank with every comment because I've felt all of this. It was August of 2008 and I was staring at my computer screen, lost. I felt like such a fraud. Everyone thought I loved my job but I knew deep down that it wasn't for me. My whole life felt like a fraud. The city I lived in, the job I had, the relationship I was in.

But I didn't know how to move forward. I was too scared. 

Then my friend, Sue, suggested her life coach. Sue was growing so much – she had so much confidence and was taking new risks. When I met her coach, I burst into tears. He was so gentle, so supportive, so encouraging about me and my purpose.

But when he offered to work with me, I said “no.” I felt guilty spending money on myself. I felt like I should be able to do it myself.

But a few weeks later, I was back to feeling like a fraud again. I wasn't moving forward. I needed help. So I called him again and with his support, I applied to graduate school, the first step on this journey to being your life purpose coach. I needed help to move forward. 

We all do. At the end of the 5 Day Course, these same women said:
“So enlightening & having more clarity now that I never realized.”
“Feeling so inspired. So grateful for the wisdom, Carin.”
“I now believe in myself.”

I want you to believe in yourself and have clarity too. My deepest is desire is for you to live on purpose. I so badly want to inspire and empower millions of women to change their lives and go for their dreams that it sometimes hurts my heart.

Living on Purpose gives me the greatest joy I've ever known.
Living on Purpose fulfills my heart and soul and lets me leave a legacy.
Living on Purpose gives me freedom to travel the world (& be paid for it).
Living on Purpose makes me feel PROUD, COURAGEOUS, and BADASS!

I want you to live on purpose too.

As I've told you, it took being robbed at gunpoint to finally take steps toward pursuing my purpose. But with a coach's help, I realized that I'm worthy of my dreams. I'm worthing of feeling joy. I'm worthy of loving myself and making a huge impact on the world.

And so are you.

xo,

Carin

Filed Under: Purpose Tagged With: Change, Group Coaching Program, Sisterhood

February 19, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Why People Fail {video}

I was working on my first book when I learned why some people succeed and others fail.

I was 28 years old, newly divorced and the words were flowing out of me. My story of love, heartbreak, and how every young woman could heal from young divorce. I was sure I had a best seller.

And then I met a top agent from a top agency in LA and I was sure this was IT!!

But after reading my manuscript, he rejected my book.

Let's face it, at 28, I felt like he had rejected ME.

Having grown up thinking I had to be perfect at everything, I had no idea how to deal with this rejection. I felt like a loser and failure and the shame was more than I could bear.

So I gave up. For years.

I hear this story all the time. You were doing great with your exercise and eating plan until someone sent you candy for Valentines Day and months later, you're still beating yourself up and far away from the gym. You were almost done with your business plan when a family member got sick and you had to take time off and then you were too tired to start again.

You fall off the wagon and figure, “What's the point? I knew I couldn't do it.”

There's only ONE difference between people who succeed and people who fail. The #1 difference between people who realize their dreams and those who don't. In this week's Happy Monday motivational video, I share what that #1 difference is so that you can fulfill your purpose and succeed at all of your dreams.  Watch it below:

Here's to YOUR purpose and success!

Filed Under: Purpose Tagged With: Change, Happy Monday, Self-Criticism

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