Every few days for this past year, I’ve gone to the fertility clinic a bit anxious and uncertain. But last week, I did it differently. I asked the clinic if my women friends could join me and hold a women’s circle there before my appointment.
They said no one had ever requested it before, but they gave us a room.
So some of my Soul Sisters met us there. From the moment I saw them in the waiting room, I calmed down, I laughed, I felt giddy and proud of having such great Sisters.
Once in the room, they spread rose petals on the ground, played soft music in the background and circled around me and Josh.
Then one by one each read a poem or letter to our future baby, welcoming him and letting him know that he is wanted and welcome and loved by them all. Then my Soul Sister Stacey said “It wouldn’t be a ritual for Carin without dancing” so she turned the dance music UP, and we PARTIED!
IN THE FERTILITY CLINIC.
Where women usually cry and stress and are depressed and anxious…
The result? My BEST appointment yet. Everything flowed…
I felt happy.
Joyful.
Connected.
Loved.
Grateful.
Hopeful.
Alive.
This is the power of Sisterhood.
Our circle felt so ancient, so right. For thousands of years, women helped each other give birth; women nursed and fed each others' families, women helped each other weave baskets, dye fabrics, and CREATE together.
IN THE FERTILITY CLINIC.
Where women usually cry and stress and are depressed and anxious…
The result? My BEST appointment yet. Everything flowed…
I felt happy.
Joyful.
Connected.
Loved.
Grateful.
Hopeful.
Alive.
This is the power of Sisterhood.
Our circle felt so ancient, so right. For thousands of years, women helped each other give birth; women nursed and fed each others' families, women helped each other weave baskets, dye fabrics, and CREATE together.
While men went off to war or hunted for food, women supported, held, loved, celebrated and uplifted each other. Women were each other’s confidants and companions.
And because our DNA is based on what served our early ancestors, this need for Sisterhood is literally in our cells.
Did you know that a Harvard study found that women are biologically wired to connect under stress? It's called “tend and befriend” and refers to the fact that during war or when men were out hunting, our female ancestors needed to tend to children and connect with one another to survive. This is why a UCLA study of 2,835 women diagnosed with breast cancer found that women with close friends lived longer and had more resilient health than those who did not.
In order to live your purpose, you need a Soul Family, A Sisterhood.
The right women take us higher. The right women help us believe in ourselves more than we ever could alone. The right women hold us when we cry, dance with us when we're celebrating, and want us to be bigger and bolder than even we can imagine!
Last week, one of my coaching clients came to me frustrated about drama and in-fighting in her birth family that the negativity was seeping into her daily existence. So we mapped out her Soul Family and she felt peace and happiness! She loves her birth family, but she also knows that they aren't her primary support to live her fully alive, big bold badass, glorious purpose.
So who is in your Soul Family?
Who are your SISTERS who will go to the hospital with you and dance?
Send a love message to them today. And if you're craving a Sisterhood like this, then join the PurposeGirls Facebook group (click here), and be on the lookout. I'm officially opening doors to EMPOWERED soon – the group coaching program and Sisterhood to live your purpose, love yourself, and rock out life in 2020!
XO,
Carin
PS: Just yesterday a woman posted this in the PurposeGirls Facebook Group: “I celebrate each of you PurposeGirls! My life has become so much richer since joining this network! God knows what we need and when we need it! ” If you haven't joined yet, please do! We're waiting for you!