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February 4, 2019 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

10 Days of Self Love – Join me?

Want to join me in a free SELF-LOVE Challenge? 10 days to commit to loving you? Then keep reading…

Do you ever call yourself names? Look in the mirror and say mean things? Berate yourself for saying the wrong thing? Beat yourself up for making a mistake?

Me too. I woke up thinking of an email I wish I had written differently. Then my brain started calling me names – until I said “NO – I won’t listen to this!” and I put my hand on my heart and began speaking to myself with kindness.

Self-love is a thing, but we’re never taught how to do it – or why it’s important. Quite the opposite… we’ve been told it’s selfish if we also want to receive. As women, our brains are wired for nurturing others. We love to give but one of the reasons that women are more depressed than men is that we ruminate more on the negative. We worry more. It’s great for taking care of others, but horrible for taking care of ourselves.

You deserve better. You deserve the same love and kindness you give to your best friend, your kids, your mail carrier! Inside of you is a sweet, tender soul that is so good, so beautiful, and so worthy of genuine love. You’ve overcome so much, you’ve been so brave to keep going every day. You are brilliant and unique and here for purpose – not despite your “imperfections” – but because you’re perfect with them.

International Day of Self-Love is February 13 so I’m kicking off 10 Days of Self-Love TODAY. Want to join? It’s scary and brave and going to be delicious!

Here’s how it will work: Every day for the next 10 days, I’ll post a Self-Love tool, inquiry, or exercise for us all to do on the PurposeGirls Women’s Happiness Network Facebook group, then we uplevel each other. (Click here to join the Free Facebook group!)

Then we’ll end with a “Grand Finale” totally FREE Self-Love Celebration class on Feb 13 that I’m hosting! It’s a class to learn 3 proven keys to self-love, purpose and joy.

Click here to register for the free class. Even if you can’t make the live class, register for access to the recording!

You are the only you!! And the world needs YOUR creativity, YOUR strengths, YOUR talents. We’re going to go beyond the mani-pedi and into self-trust, self-compassion, and self-celebration.

Join me on Instagram and in the Facebook group, and join the Self-Love Celebrationclass!

Plus, PLEASE share this link with 3 women who would need self-love and would benefit from self-celebration! February 13 is also Gal-entine’s Day, the day to celebrate our Girlfriends, so share this link so we build up a big ol’ sisterhood of self-loving Goddesses!

Together, we’re changing the world, one woman at a time.

I CAN’T WAIT TO CELEBRATE YOU AND SELF-LOVE TOGETHER!!

XOXOX

Carin

PS: Join my private Facebook Group to be a part of the Self Love Challenge!

January 31, 2019 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Ever wanted to start a business?

Have you ever wondered what it might be like to start your own business? To write the rules? To have something that's yours?

Years ago, someone said to me, “Do what you love and the money will follow.” Deep inside, I wanted to believe her, but it seemed so idealistic. So irresponsible. So impossible.

Maybe that's because when I wanted to leave my first job, my dad said to me, “Carin, it's not supposed to be fun; that's why it's called WORK.”

He said that, but he modeled something completely different. My dad was a talented and passionate architect who after 6 months of working for the top architecture firm in Detroit, left to start his own firm. It was hard work. He built the business from scratch, attracted clients, and struggled to survive the economic recession right when I was born.

I know it wan't easy, but we always had food to eat, a roof over our heads, clothes and an annual vacation.
He did what he loved and with a LOT of hard work, the money followed.
We weren't millionaires, but we had enough, and most importantly, I saw my dad work his passion.

So when I realized I wanted to do this empowerment work in the world, I knew the only way was to have my own business.
But I was terrified. My Fear Brain screeched:
“Are you crazy?”
“Who do you think you are?”
“What if you don't make any money?”
“What if everyone hates you and you lose everything?”

So I held back from moving forward for 8 years. 8 years of depression. 8 years of feeling stuck. 8 years of feeling like a loser for not following my dreams.

I wish that I knew then what I know now: It won't be easy, but it is possible. You can have work that lights you up from the inside out. There are so many people who can teach you what you need – from video to social media to accounting to legal needs. And if you put the time, energy, focus, and work in to doing what you love, the money will follow.

I've learned a lot of this the hard way, so I want to make it easier for you. That's why on this week's episode of The PurposeGirl Podcast, I interview Genecia Alluora, the Founder of Soul Rich Woman, South East Asia's leading network for female entrepreneurs. Growing up in poverty, she started working when she was a child to pay family bills. She's overcome so much in life to lead a network of 11,000 female entrepreneurs across Asia. In this episode, she talks about mindset, overcoming limiting beliefs, and stepping out of your comfort zone. You can listen to it here!

She even inspired me to think bigger about my potential and impact. At one point, she said, “Put a dollar sign in front of your phone number and make that your goal!”

I laughed out loud, but I knew she was serious. Someone somewhere makes $6,464,830,000. So why not me?
Why not you?
That's what I love about Genecia – she makes you think!

If you've been thinking of starting your own business and you want some inspiration and motivation, listen here. Or if you have friends who have wanted to start a business, send them this link to listen.

And in the meantime, here are a few Purpose Power Tips for you:
1. Get clear on your purpose: Purpose is the active way you uniquely impact the world in a way that lights you up. It's being your true self and doing all that's in your heart. It's your why. Research shows that people who have purpose are happier, less depressed, and more optimistic and resilient through challenges. Get clear on who you are, what you're passionate about, and the impact you want to make on the world.

2. Write your goals: People who have written goals are more likely to achieve them. Be clear and specific, and hold yourself accountable. Even better to have someone else hold you accountable! Then celebrate EVERY small step! Even Googling “how to set up taxes” is a step, so celebrate that. Brain research shows that positivity tells your brain “do more of this” so celebrate it all!

3. Adopt a positive mindset: Our brains try to stop us by telling us what we can't do, so we have to flip our mindset from “I can't” to “How can I?” From ‘I don't know how” to “Who can help?” Even if you have a “failure” – ask what you can learn and move on. Take every objection your brain says and flip it into a question that puts you into forward action.

You have it in you to create anything you desire. It probably won't be easy. And it will definitely take work. But my love, you've done hard things before and you do hard work EVERY DAY. You may as well do it for something you're passionate about and is on purpose for you.

To your success!

XO,

Carin

March 29, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Ever Feel Powerless?

Do you ever feel powerless?
Numb?
Lost?
Like you used to be joyful and bold and brave and you have no idea where your power went?

Me too.
But I spent this weekend with 500 amazing women and my new mentor gaining it back. Through deep soulful exercises, sacred Sisterhood empowering one another, and connecting with my body in luscious dancing, I remembered that deep within me is a Knowing. A Truth. SHE is my power.

SHE tells me what I want. (And don't want.)
SHE tells me what I like. (And don't like.)
And SHE tells you too.

But if you're like me, you don't always listen to HER because SHE seems impractical.

For instance, SHE wants to fly first class to my Greece retreat in September, but Fear Brain says, “What a waste of money. You don't need that.”
SHE gets excited about creating a movement to eradicate women's depression, but Fear Brain says, “Who do you think you are?”
SHE says I'm gorgeous and sexy, but Fear Brain says “Ugh – another grey hair!”

Fear Brain tries to stop your POWER.

But SHE is the source of your JOY. So if you cut her off every time because she's impractical or doesn't make sense, you end up numb, resentful and powerless.

But it's not your fault. It's not even Fear Brain's fault.
Fear Brain is the result of the messages you received that you aren't good enough.

Even if you had the best, most encouraging parents on earth,
Even if you have a big job title,
Even if you have kids who love you and a partner who thinks you're sexy…

We are bombarded all day long with messages that there's something wrong with us:
Your hair is too gray.
Your skin is too wrinkly.
Your belly is too big.
Older women aren't sexy.
And for one of my African American clients who's having trouble loving herself, think about how she grew up with mostly white dolls on the shelf, commercials for shampoos that don't work for her hair, bandaids that don't match her skin, and lack of people who look like her in leadership. So of course, she feels like she's not good enough.

Plus, we're told that if we're bold, we're nasty bitches…
We fear if we shine too bright, we'll make other women feel bad.
If we brag about our brilliance, we're arrogant.

The result is that we give up our power to what we are NOT. We hide it.
We decide we'd be worthy if we were thinner, younger, smarter, more successful, married, a mom, and so much more, so we develop Fear Brain to make us worthy.

The result is that we listen to Fear Brain more than SHE who is your Inner Knowing, your POWER. And every time you listen to Fear Brain, you feel small, resentful, regretful. Numb. Powerless.

But we can take our power back.
I know it's scary, but EVERY TIME I listen to my inner knowing, it's been glorious. Leaving my marketing career to be a speaker, moving to NYC when I had NO money in the bank, asking for a gig on SiriusXM, investing in myself with this new mentor. It's scary to listen to SHE, and sometimes I fail, but ultimately, SHE always guides me to my POWER, my JOY, and my PURPOSE.

SHE will guide you too, but you have to let her. You have to nurture and love and trust HER. Here are a few ideas how:
1. MOVE: When Fear Brain gets in your way, turn on music you love and rock out. Your body is designed to move and as a woman, it's designed to dance. Just this morning, I turned around self-doubt dancing to Rhianna's Diamonds and it was fabulous. So rock it out and return to your glorious power.

2. GET IT OUT: Fear Brain can be SO loud and so damaging that sometimes we have to get out our anger, fear, and self-doubt with a good old-fashioned temper tantrum. Just yesterday, I let myself get anger out and it allowed it to move through me instead of taking it out on Josh or my mom. So go to the bathroom, cry, scream, hit a pillow. Tell the Fear Brain to F*Off!

3. DAILY PRACTICE: You MUST begin a daily practice NOW of rejoicing in your glory. Walk by a mirror and wink at the woman in front of you. Tenderly tell your thighs you love them for how strong they are. Learn your own strengths and tout them at the office.

4. DARE: Do something that SHE wants you to do – travel, take a painting class, approach that hottie for a date, go on a retreat. Prove to yourself that you CAN. I did this by saying YES to SHE with this program and as I sat in the room Sunday morning, I said, “This is the best investment I've made.”

5. SISTERHOOD: Get a supportive Sisterhood that will reflect your genius, hold you when you cry, believe in you when you want to reach new heights, and cheerlead you all the way.

I hope you practice the 5 tips above. Comment below with questions or to let me know which you try. May you stand in your power today and every day.

March 19, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

Get Motivated!

Happy Monday! I took last week off because I caught a cold, and this week, I need some MOTIVATION to get back on track.

So I'm wearing my “MOTIVATION” tank and using my own tools. There are a few questions I love so much to get me motivated that I taped them in this video to help you get motivated as well! If you've wanted to start a business, lose weight, create art, or do anything new, but you just can't seem to step away from Netflix to get motivated, this video is for you!

I'd love to hear your dreams, goals, and vision so that we can motivate each other! Post in the Comments section below!

With so much love – to your purpose!

XO,

Carin

PS – If you desire some personal attention to your dreams, here are a few ideas:

1. Join me in Greece for a powerful retreat to transform your ideas into action! For 4 days and 4 nights at a luxurious 5-star resort in the Greek Isles, you'll get clear on your deepest desires, you'll uncover your true purpose, and you'll create an action plan forward. And through April 2, you get 10% off for being one of my loyal readers. You can reserve your spot for only 200 euros. Click here to learn more and register – you don't want to miss this incredible opportunity!

2. Do you belong to a group or work for a company that brings in speakers for training and events? Or have you been wanting to start a group to bring the success mindset and a purpose driven culture to your organization? I've trained companies worldwide from BMW to Progressive Insurance and LinkedIn, plus I've spoken at women's events around the globe. I'd be honored to train your colleagues on:

Motivation Mindset
Employee Happiness: The Key to Success
Purpose-Driven Leadership
Elevating Women's Voices – How to build confidence, clarity, and create your own path to success

Click here to learn more!

February 3, 2018 By Carin Rockind 4 Comments

This Changed My Life

Do you have something you've wanted to do your whole life but haven't had the courage or time or motivation?

As you may know, I've wanted to write a book my whole life.
I distinctly remember being 29, freshly divorced, trying to find myself and my path.
The only place that comforted me was Barnes & Noble.
I would arrive early on a Saturday morning, buy a large latte, settle into an oversized tan leather chair and surround myself with self-help books.

As I flipped through title after title, my heart opened, my blood danced with delight.
I envisioned my own book among the pile.
I had been writing a book about what it's like to be young and divorced. About your two best friends getting married just when you are getting divorced, about being the only divorcee at your 10 year high school reunion.

And then I got my lucky break.
I shared my dream on a random blind date when the guy said, “I have a friend who's a big agent.”
Next thing you know, I'm sending my manuscript off to William Morris – the biggest agent – with butterflies in my stomach and certainty in my heart.
He called the next day.
“You're a great writer, Carin, but I can't publish this.”
It was too much my own story, he said.
This was before Eat. Pray. Love. so little did he know that memoirs were about to be the hottest thing.

My heart knew it had to be my story, but my fear-brain took over and shut down the book altogether.
I stopped writing.
I quit my dream.

That began years of depression that eventually led me to violent nightly panic attacks.

And then I found Positive Psychology, the science of happiness and human flourishing. My psychiatrist suggested that I didn't need more drugs, but I rather, I needed to start DOing my dreams. Taking action.

So I did – I traveled to Paris by myself, I bought a boat, I ran a marathon.

And I started to feel better.

Then I was robbed at gunpoint and knew I had to pursue the biggest dream of all – becoming an empowerment author, coach, and speaker.
As you may know, I left my 6-figure, VP-title, corporate job to get my Masters degree in Positive Psychology and start this work. I intentionally wrote 100 pages for my thesis about Purpose (even though it was supposed to be 30) because I wanted to finally write a book.

That was 6 years ago and still the book isn't done.

Why?
FEAR.
Fear that I'll be rejected again.
Fear that no one will buy it.
Fear that you'll hate it and post all sorts of mean things on Amazon.
So I've written and re-written those 100 pages 300 times.
I created coaching programs to empower thousands of people to live their purpose.
I created a day and a half workshop on the material that is now taught in the Certificate of Applied Positive Psychology (CAPP) program worldwide.

But still, no book.

Until my dear friend Louisa pulled me aside this summer and said, “Carin, there are now 800 CAPP grads who have your Purpose material. How are you going to feel if one of them writes your book before you do?”

BAM!
My gut dropped.
My breath stopped.
I felt so sick I went to a toilet to try vomitting.

And I knew what I had to do: Finish the book. Send it to a publisher. So Louisa coached me, helping me work out the kinks in the structure, and holding me accountable to a deadline, and I'm thrilled to report that on January 31, I turned in my book proposal to a publisher!

The publisher may accept it, she may not, I may send it to others, I may self-publish, and none of it matters. What matters is that I'm fulfilling my lifelong dream and FINALLY, this weight has been lifted. Nothing can stop me now from becoming a published author.

What's crazy is that I knew everything Louisa was telling me. I help people fulfill their dreams All. The. Time. But sometimes, we need someone else to help us see the blocks, and hold us accountable to move forward.

That's why I love coaching you.
I want to do for you what Louisa just did for me.
Get you moving on your dreams.
Get you living your purpose.