Monday SPARK Archives - Carin Rockind

What if you told yourself that you're awesome instead?

This week, I want you to practice saying as many empowering, nice things as you can to yourself, and I'm going to practice too.

The truth is that my brain can be brutal. My mom was always concerned that I beat myself up, and if you're like a lot of my clients, you do it too. You're probably harsher on yourself than anyone else could be.

But to what end? Is self-criticism helping or hurting you?

This weekend, I hosted my new EMPOWERED group for our first retreat. After we all defined what it means to be empowered – speak your truth even if others don't agree, follow your purpose no matter what, know that you're enough as is, move through fear with courage – I asked, What's getting in your way of being empowered?

Under hard stories of abuse, abandonment, isolation and perfectionism was a common theme: We feel like we aren't good enough. But as we looked into each other's eyes, we saw something completely different. In each woman, we saw resilience, strength, beauty, and courage!

When one woman shared that she was afraid to move to New York, we all said, “You're going to be awesome there!” When one woman shared that she's afraid to be honest with her husband, we said, “We're here with you, you can do this.”

Encouraging words were way more empowering than the nasty self-talk. With encouragement, you reach goals. With encouragement, you thrive!

By the end the weekend, each woman was flying high! So your SPARK this week: Be your own best cheerleader. I'm going to quadruple my self-love, my self-kindness, and self-empowerment, and I want you to do it with me.

Fill in this sentence: By this time next year, I'll treat myself like…

For motivation, I taped this Facebook Live today and you'll see my very raw, very real emotion around this. In fact, I'll be doing Facebook Lives every Monday at 1 pm ET – you can watch them weekly here.

Not good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough – Stop feeling unworthy!!!

Let's take a stand for our worth, our purpose, and our most empowered selves!

To being our own best cheerleaders!

Carin

Intention Directs Attention, Which Dictates ACTION

Your SPARK for this week: Set Intentions.

This weekend was Yom Kippur, the holiest day in the Jewish year. It's our holiday to reflect and re-calibrate with our heart, soul, and purpose.

Life gets so chaotic, so busy that often it controls you instead of you controlling it. If you're like most of us, the kids have carpool, the report needs to be written, there's laundry to do again, and before you know it, months or years pass and you wonder where time has gone.

In the absence of controlling your mind and life, it will control you. This is why you must be intentional. Research shows that what you set your intention on, you put your attention to. And we know that whatever you put your attention on, your action follows.

This is why I love coaching: Different than therapy (which I love for different reasons,) coaching intentionally directs your life by looking forward at how you want to feel, who you want to be, and what you want in your life.

Our rabbi coached us perfectly this weekend. He gave us postcards from doyou10Q.com with intentional questions. Each one has an inquiry about where we want to be next year. I love them so much that I'm going to bring them to you throughout the next 6 weeks as weekly Monday SPARKS. Each week, I'll send you an inquiry for you to journal on and set the intention for your life.

Here's your first one:

By this time next year, I'll explore…

Do you want to explore your purpose? Do you want to explore mindfulness? A new career? Travel to different countries? Study a new topic?

I'd love to hear what you're wanting to explore. Email me and as always, if you're stuck and I can help you figure it out, let me know.

To your Intention setting…

With so much love,
Carin

Monday SPARK: Stop Being So Harsh On Yourself!

Monday SPARK: Be Intentional