“I don’t know what I want.”
“I just want to be happy.”
“I feel lost.”
When I first met Libby, she was the first to admit she was not living the life she had dreamt of for herself. Although she kept appearances expertly, her life felt hollow.
The thing was, to all outside observers, Libby looked like she had it all together. She looked happy. The online version of Libby was thriving: she went to Princeton, she made a great paycheck at a hot new startup in San Francisco. When people asked how she was doing she told them she was Great! In that false chipper voice that only half disguised how unhappy she really was.
But underneath she was in deep pain. She was on autopilot, hammering through her days, toughing it out until the weekend when she drowned out the emptiness every way she knew how.
She was cruel to her body.
She numbed her pain.
She pretended her way through life.
When we first met, I asked her what she really wanted – deeply, truly wanted.
And then we got clear what was getting in her way of having it.
I took her through powerful exercises to get clear on the masks Libby was wearing: all the SHOULDS in her life that were trapping her in unhealthy patterns.
It turns out that Libby’s SHOULDS had a powerful hold on her. Maybe you can relate. After untangling a web of fears keeping her from living her most joyful life, we got clear on Libby’s innermost desire: she wanted to be a writer.
Step by step, we created her path to purpose.
She first left her tech sales job and city life in San Francisco to travel the world.
She then started caring for her body, mind, and spirit.
And now, she has nearly finished her first book.
Libby transitioned from living a life of SHOULDS to a life of purpose, and it has completely transformed her life.
Every single one of us has an innate, deep-seated purpose in life, and when we peel back the layers of SHOULDS, when we drop the masks, when we discover who we truly are and what we deeply desire, we step into our true selves and greatest happiness.
You, too, need to drop the SHOULDS to activate your happiest life. And I want to teach you how.
If Libby's story resonates with you, if you're tired of living according to the SHOULDS and crave deeper happiness and fulfillment, I invite you to click here and get in touch with me. Let's talk.
XO,
Carin
OK, so this may seem like a no-brainer, but the fact is that our brains have something called “negativity bias.” It's easier to focus on the negative and we all do it unconsciously. However, it makes us miserable!!! A client was just telling me how she's become a complainer at work because everyone else is complaining. Another finds constant fault with her husband. And, most of my clients have negative brain chatter about themselves all day long. If you want to be happy, you need to get intentional about positivity.
We're so busy running around doing-doing that we often miss the moment we're in. I was speaking at a conference for female
course they do – we're all hungry for real relationships where we can cry, laugh, scream, be heard, and be held without judgement. We need people who believe in us and lift us up!
purpose or even where to look for it. Or, you have an inkling of what you'd like to do but you've been too afraid to do it. Your inner voice says, Who are you to write a book? Or: You can't make money singing! However, you must. The dream never goes away. The yearning never subsides. If you don't know what your purpose is or you're too afraid to go for it, decide to start figuring it out!
As one woman shared, “I've never made such deep friendships 
