My dear,

I spent this weekend getting wild in the woods – getting naked, figuratively and literally – and I am forever changed.

On my 42nd birthday, I emailed you that this would be a big year for me, though I did not know how. In the days that followed, I became confused and lost about who I am. I questioned everything – my marriage, my home, my work. Nothing seemed “right.”

I began deep work into who I am. I cleansed my body of all toxins – gluten, dairy, sugar, caffeine – I meditated and journaled and cried to friends. The message that kept rising in my soul was this:

You are a Wild Woman.

At the surface, I didn't know what it meant, but I saw myself dancing naked in the woods with other women. Perhaps a past life remembrance – or a future vision.

So I signed up for a “Wild Woman Sisterhood” retreat.

Oh my, the ability to freely dance, to let loose, to let go is the most empowering experience possible.

In a world with so many rules, so many expectations, so many responsibilities, we forget who we are. We lose who we are. We hide who we are in order to fit in and be loved. And then we end up depressed.

Someone somewhere said you weren't good enough to be a writer, thin enough to be loved, you shouldn't run naked, you needed to be a good girl, to be polite, to not brag or get angry. Me too. It kept us safe as children – in our homes, our churches, at school. But in that hiding, we abandoned our Selves.

So you gave up the dream of being an artist, you pretended not to be sensual, you did what you were supposed to do. And then we wake up at 30, 40, 50, and wonder why we aren't happy?!

My love, inside of you is a Wild Woman (or man). You were born to be creative, expressive, sensual, sexual, a lioness protecting her cubs, a priestess sharing her wisdom, a compassionate lover, a dancer and an artist. That is the divine, strong, powerful feminine.

I gave up my true nature as a child. I've hidden this part of me for nearly 40 years. No more, Sister. No more. This weekend I reclaimed my true self and I feel born again. Whole. Complete. Lioness. Goddess. Mother. Healer. Woman. I am forever grateful to all of my Wild Woman Sisterhood Sisters. This is only the beginning.

I taped this video for you to remember YOUR Wild Woman. Enjoy!

I'm now off to lead my Soul Spark in Sonoma Retreat where 9 beautiful women will join me to awaken their souls. You must join us sometime!

With so much love,
Carin

This week, I've been sitting with a simple – and yet complex – question: What if?

What if you really could achieve that goal you've been thinking about?
What if you could have the love you desire?
What if you do follow your purpose?

What if?

It's so powerful, yet most of us often ask ourselves this very question… in the negative.
What if I fail?
What if they don't like me?
What if I get rejected and my big dream is over?

Just writing this breaks my heart. I know the pain of allowing these questions to stop me from even starting a goal. And then I end up feeling small, inadequate, less than. If I'm being 100% honest, which I always try to be with you, then I know this is why I haven't written a book yet. I'm too afraid of humiliation.

But what if I don't fail? What if you love the book? What if I change lives with it?

Now that makes me excited and happy!  🙂

Worrying about what might go wrong is part of our evolutionary makeup. If our early ancestors worried about the winter, they stocked up on food. But we're not in danger of dying. Embarrassment? Maybe. Failure? I guess. But even if I publish a book that no one likes, at least I will have done it. And that's something to be proud of!

When you get stuck in the negative without giving the positive its fair weight, it's called “negativity bias” and it can ruin your life.

It almost ruined something really wonderful for me recently. Just last week, I held my first F*Midlife Club group mentorship call and it was AMAZING! We have dozens of women who are engaged and ready to take charge of their lives.

But it almost didn't happen.

The first time I mentioned it to all of you, no one signed up. Panic set in. “What if no one signs up?” “What if I have to tell my experts I failed?” UGH. Negativity flooded my brain until I was ready to give up. That's when I knew to grab control and flip it.

Here's how:
1. Answer your negative “What if…?” For example, “What if no one signs up?” Answer? I'll live. Or, Then it wasn't meant to be and I'll work on another offering for you.

2. Flip it to a positive “What if…?” For example, “What if LOTS of women sign up?” Answer? Then I'll get to serve and support amazing people in a way I've dreamed of!

3. Now ask “How can I?” Take the positive flip and brainstorm how to bring it to fruition. For example, “How can I bring this to lots of women?” Answer? Hold live calls, offer referral bonuses, do Facebook Live videos, do a Facebook post.

4. Then get to work! Take those ideas and make them happen.

You got this, love. Because, you know… WHAT IF YOU'RE AS CAPABLE AND BRILLIANT as I believe you are??? 🙂

XO,
Carin

“How do you stay happy in the midst of so much chaos?”

This is the question someone recently asked me in a seminar. My stomach dropped and sadness filled my heart. I hadn't wanted to talk to you about the election and madness, but there is just so much heaviness right now that it can feel hard to breathe, let alone stay on top of your health, your goals, and your dreams.

In the midst of so much external chaos, we feel chaotic inside. In the midst of watching rage, we feel our own bubble up. In the midst of discussions about change, and in the changing Autumn weather, you realize your own desire for change. The result is anxiety and uncertainty.

So what to do? As Michelle Obama said, “When they go low, we go high.” Similarly, when you feel low, support yourself to the highest degree. I call it “doubling down” on self-care. Here's what I've been doing:

• Evaluating life: What's working, what's not, and where do I want to expand, evolve, play and grow
• Getting Mentorship from my coach to guide me in health and guide me through the changes I want to make in life
• Lean on my community of “Sisters” for love, support, and cheerleading for all that I desire to become
• Daily practice using my positive psychology mindset tools, meditation, and being in nature
• Enhancing my health with a Gluten-free, Dairy-free, Caffeine-free, Refined Sugar-Free cleanse and having an accountability buddy for exercise
• Investing in me: I signed up for a Wild Woman retreat at the end of October and a Mindful Self-Compassion Intensive in December, and I'm reading self-help books at night

Put simply, I'm using the resources and tools I know. I'm investing in me. And it's helping me feel happier, healthier and more focused on who I am, what I want, and how to get there.

But I couldn't do it without support – without my coach, Sisterhood, accountability buddy, and tools. It's too hard to do on your own!

That's why I've created a new Sisterhood that helps YOU “double down” on SELF-CARE! The “F*Midlife Club is a monthly membership that allows you to focus on YOU so that you expand your happiness! You'll focus on the changes YOU want to make, the areas of life YOU need to enhance, and get the support YOU need for a healthier, happier life. Do you want change, Joshua? Then join us!

Every month, you'll get guidance from me, expert advice on topics like health, nutrition, self-love, sex, and parenting, plus you'll receive at-home practices, challenges to push past your comfort zone, and a Sisterhood of women to lean on.All for the price of a plain-old mani/pedi or a dinner out. No joke. (Click here to learn more!)

I know life's crazy right now. I know there's a lot of darkness and anxiety. I also know there's a lot of guilt about doing something for yourself. I get it. I want to help you with that. Because if you're feeling stuck, lost and depressed, you're no good to anyone else.

You need to feel happy to give joyously to others. So I'm making it easy for you to say YES to you. This is my lowest offering ever and I'm darned excited about it! I just want to give as many women as possible the help and hope they need. No more worries about being able to afford coaching. No more worries about being able to afford self-care. This is possible for you.

The F*Midlife Club will inspire and empower you to live a happier, healthier, more vibrant life – and yes, for the price of a mani/pedi or discount shoes at DSW… just $49/month.

Click here to join the club,! Say YES to you!

It's time to come into the light and make the changes you desire!

XO,
Carin

What if you could get the blueprint and support for living a happy, vibrant life for the same price as a mani/pedi? You'd want it, right?

Me too – and that's why I'm so excited to bring you an opportunity to work with me for only 5% of regular coaching prices! It's my most affordable coaching yet and I'm SO excited.

I constantly get emails that you feel unhappy, stuck, like something's missing, and you want to be happy – but you don't know where to start.

That's how I felt for years. I read every self-help book, went to dozens of lectures, and wrote constantly in my journal. I prayed for a mentor to teach me tools, help me through fear, and give me permission to live true to my heart.

I became a coach to be that mentor for you – and though I've helped hundreds of women thrive, I know that the price of 1:1 coaching has limited the number of people I can serve. So I've wracked my brain for years over how to serve you with a low-cost investment in yourself that still allows me to pay my mortgage – and two weeks ago, it became clear! If you've been wanting to work with me but have felt like you can't afford it, now is your time.

Introducing: The F*Midlife Club – the Sisterhood to inspire you forward! (Click here  to learn more!)

The F*Midlife Club is a monthly membership that will inspire and empower you to live a happier, healthier, more vibrant life. You will receive consistent inspiration, motivation, and empowerment to live your life your way – and yes, for the price of discount shoes at DSW.

Pretty awesome, right? THAT is the F*Midlife Club. {Click here for info!}

What You Get

Every month, you'll get mentorship with me, advice from leading experts, proven exercises to use at home, support from a Sisterhood of women worldwide, discounts on deeper coaching, and so much more. All for just 5% of my regular coaching fees! Specifically, membership includes:

• MENTORSHIP WITH ME: Every month, you'll have one 90-minute group coaching call with me where I will teach, answer questions, and give you tools!
• GUEST EXPERTS: I've asked my favorite experts in health, self-love, and sexuality, such as SiriusXM's Dr. Wider, to give you their best advice!
• HOME PRACTICE: Every month, you'll get a worksheet full of powerful home practices to make a real shift in every day life.
• COMMUNITY: We all crave connection. As a member, you have a private Facebook group where it will be safe to share both sorrow and celebration. You'll receive encouragement, support, excitement, and love.
• BONUSES, SWAG, CHALLENGES: As an F*Midlife member, you will receive an f*midlife shirt, discounts, challenges for adventure and so much more! Click here to see ALL you get!

ALL of this – for the price of a Mani/Pedi, or a discount pair of shoes at DSW, or one dinner out. $49! I'm 100% serious. And thrilled! 🙂 I want you to finally say YES to you. No excuses. Not this time.

Click here to join the club,!

What is your happiness worth to you? I believe in you to want more for your life. You were never meant to live stuck and unfulfilled. Get support now. It's YOUR time to get on your path. Join us!

XO,
Carin

Do you ever just feel like you're ready for change?

Like there's something bubbling up inside of you, wanting to come out, aching to be set free, wanting to play and feel positive, and even if you don't know what it is, it feels like you're going to burst from the weight of it?

Yeah, me too. 🙂 And seemingly, everyone else too! Four of my clients are considering divorce, two said yesterday they were aching for adventure, a dozen are yearning for purpose. Even my corporate clients crave change – I spoke at MetLife's Global Leadership Forum last week on change management and am keynoting for AAA next month on change leadership.

Maybe it's the season, or maybe it's the upcoming election, but we're all craving change. And unfortunately, it's causing a lot of angst for us all.

Maybe you're restless, maybe you feel stuck, maybe you've been depressed. On one of my group coaching calls last night, one woman said she's so ready for change that she's overwhelmed and anxious. Another said it's so scary, it makes her want to crawl back in a hole. Another said that her desire for change is so strong, AND so frightening, that she's frozen and can't take action. I totally get it. I'm sure you do, too.

When you know you're ready for change, it gets hard before it gets great. Let me repeat that – it will be painful before it's purposeful. It will be dark before there is light. Always. And only those who lean into the darkness and USE it for growth will thrive.

That's the process of change – trees withstand cold, harsh winters to blossom more vibrantly in Spring. Butterflies were caterpillars who disintegrated into brown, ugly goo in cocoons before they grew colorful, beautiful wings.

You, too, will have to go through the pain, through the challenges, through the hardships to soar. But make no mistake, you will soar, and it will be great – if you see the process through.

If you don't, you will stay stuck, anxious, tired and overwhelmed.  You may be able to deny your heart's desire for awhile, but it will come back either in physical or mental illness. One of my clients went on anti-depressants because she's afraid to leave her marriage. Taylor Strecker said on SiriusXM today that she got hemorrhoids from the stress of wanting to leave her marriage. The desire for change won't go away – it will just get stuck in your body.

But you can make change. You can choose to lean in, explore, and go through it. It requires an open mind, a willing heart, courage, and support, but you have that. You can do that!

This week was Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year, and every year, I go through the same process.

1. Inventory what IS working and commit to more of that. If you have a good friend, schedule a coffee date ASAP. If you love your home, spend a few minutes tomorrow morning appreciating it. Gratitude tells your brain that you want more of that.
2. Be honest about what is no longer working, and get clear on the essence of what you do want. For example, if you hate your job, begin with asking how you want to feel in your job. Get curious about what makes you feel fulfilled and alive. The feeling will help guide you to actions that provoke it.
3. Admit how YOU need to change. Have you allowed fear of rejection or shame of not being good enough to hold you back? Have you acted in ways you're not proud of? Admit it. Be kind to yourself about it. (You're human!) And then apologize and/or promise yourself to make changes for the better.
4. Commit. Every change begins with a decision to change. A decision to move past the fear, regret, and shame, and to lean in. Josh and I sent our regrets and our hopes down the river to symbolically let them go and allow our commitments to flow.
5. Get support. You were never meant to do this alone. Neither was I. That's why I have a coach, attend retreats, and participate in a divine sisterhood. That's why I create them. We need others saying that they hear us, see us, get us, and believe in us. I shared my recent angst with my sisterhood and they REJOICED in my desires. They HELD me through the pain of letting go. And they MIRRORED that they believe in me. I felt so supported, loved, and held. It was heaven!!!

Very soon, I'll be announcing a new Sisterhood for you. I'm SOOO excited – it's my most affordable opportunity yet for you to embrace and create change and it is CHOCK FULL of mentorship with me, guest experts, empowerment exercises and so much more. I can't wait! Stay tuned to your inbox for info soon!

And in the meantime, lean into change. Allow yourself to know the essence of the life you desire and experiment with the feeling of playfulness you crave.

With so much love,

PS – If you missed the webinar, F*Midlife: Take Control of Your Life NOW! — not to worry! Register here and you'll get the recording!
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