7 years ago, my friend Ed drowned to death, and I couldn’t save him. I dedicate this post to him.
It was a beautiful July morning, just 5 weeks before I was heading off to graduate school for Positive Psychology to finally pursue my dreams. My friend Ed had never been on a boat, and had never been in Lake Erie either. I couldn’t wait to take him out.
So a week later, he met me at the dock and we began taking on the free waters. He laughed and shouted with joy. I’d never seen him so happy!
We then anchored and with a huge smile on his face, Ed dove in. I immediately saw that he was struggling, so I turned the boat to be a bit closer to him. He didn’t move so I started throwing him a rope screaming, “Ed, get the rope!!! ED, GET THE ROPE!! EDDDDDDDD GET THE ROPE!!!!!
Seconds later, his head fell below the surface of the water, and he never came back up.
After weeks of trauma wanting to give up on school and life, I finally learned that Ed’s body had been chock full of cocaine. Apparently, after being rejected from the military two weeks earlier, he turned to heavy drugs to numb the pain. It’s like he had a death wish.
Ed’s death is a constant reminder of why we must live our purpose WHILE WE’RE ALIVE.
What are you waiting for?
Why aren’t you going for it fully? If you’re like me, you’re scared. Years ago, I sat on my KNOWING that I was here to inspire and support you because I was too afraid of leaving my safe job. I was too afraid of being rejected. I was so afraid of failing. So I stayed stuck. And then the pain of being stuck became so bad that I got sick until eventually the pain of staying stuck became worse than the fear of possibly failing. I knew that if I came to the end of my days without ever trying to live this purpose, I’d regret it forever.
Do you want your dreams to die with you like Ed’s did? Why do you have painting talent if not to share your gift with others? Why do you have ideas about politics, if not to help your community? I know it’s scary, and I know that your brilliance is not meant to die.
Your purpose is bigger than you. If you have a book idea, then those words are meant to help someone else. What good do those words do sitting in your journal and dying with you in the grave? If you dream of starting an animal shelter, it’s because there are puppies in mills who need your help. Do you want to die with them?
This may sound dramatic, but having survived being robbed at gunpoint and having lived through Ed’s death, I know too well how short life is.
Do not let your dreams die with you. And if you don’t know what your dreams are, and you only know that you feel stuck and lost, then let this be your wake up call to start the process of figuring it out.
Find a mentor, join a mastermind, do a program to get clarity on who you are and what you want.
No matter what you do, take action today. For Ed. Ed’s legacy lives on through us following our hearts. Sending so much love to Ed’s family.
With so much love,
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Brigid had always wanted to be an artist. She just loved painting and had always loved the stroke of a brush. But as a young girl, she kept seeing commercials for “starving artists.” She didn’t want to starve, so understandably, she gave up painting. Brigid went on to start a successful printing business with her partner, but twenty years into her business and life as wife and mother, she lost her spark. Life took over and she became depleted. She heard about my offer for a free 30-minute call and within moments of talking, she declared her desire for change. She joined my EMPOWERED program and within our first two weeks of working together, Brigid remembered her first love: being an artist. She came home from the first EMPOWERED retreat so light that everyone at home noticed a change. She started painting at home and began to feel alive. She then started bringing her art talent to her business, and she felt on purpose. Doing graphic design, creating new project ideas, and bravely sharing her talent with clients, for the first time in a long time, Brigid fell in love with life. She knew she needed more space to create, so she asked her partner if they could get rid of the futon in the spare bedroom so that she could set up a studio. Just a few weeks ago, Brigid not only set up her studio, but she also sold her first painting! No “starving artist” for her!! I love this photo of her painting with the woman who bought it, and I love this picture of the FIRST (but not last) check she’s received for her painting talent. Join me in CONGRATULATING Brigid on being a kickass woman on purpose. To learn more about her and her graphics arts, painting and printing business, check out Creative Characters here.