Why are you here?
Like really here? Not just reading this email, but here on this earth? What is it that you must do while still on this planet in order to feel fulfilled, satisfied and whole? What do you need to experience? How can you expand and savor each moment to feel peace within? To know that you have thoroughly used your life well?
Sorry to get heavy right away, but my soul is begging me to go there with you today.
As you know, I turned 42 last week, and I’ve been reflecting on these questions all weekend. It may not seem like a “big” birthday, but I’ve always known that 42 would be a big year for me. Something about the number just seemed… divine. Powerful. Important.
Years ago, when I shared this with Josh, he said, “Of course. 42 is the answer to life, the universe, and everything.” (No pressure, right? Wrong – I want the pressure because I want to live as well, as wholly, as possible. And if not now, when?)
Apparently this is a book reference, but I don’t believe in coincidences. My soul won’t allow it. Since the new moon on September 1, it has been crying for attention. First, I felt lost – my life seemed unrecognizable to me. I wanted to run from everything. Then I panicked, I felt ill – I was doubled over in pain desperate for air. Then came the sobs. Through it all, I journaled and journaled, being honest with myself about every burning need of my heart. Most of it, I’m still processing. All of it is worthwhile.
Perhaps you recognize this “crisis” or deep reflection. Or perhaps you have been wanting to go there too. One thing I came to realize for sure: It’s time to set myself free. It’s more than time to stop caring so gosh darned much about what other people think. It sounds so silly saying this out loud. Life’s precious – why are we wasting time caring if someone doesn’t like our opinion or dance moves? And none of us has unlimited time. This is it – your time to make the most of each moment.
So here is what I’ve learned thus far about Life, The Universe, and Everything:
Life… is to be LIVED. Lived fully. Out loud. Get up and dance even if you’re the only one. When you dance, others will be inspired. You will light a match under them. Speak up. Express your true feelings. Even if you get rejected. It’s their loss, but your gain knowing that you courageously risked for love and truth, making you even more open-hearted for the next opportunity. Feel it all. Even the pain. Cry, weep, scream, rejoice, celebrate. It’s all a great teacher of compassion and purpose. The deeper you feel pain, the more you can feel joy.
The Universe… is a partner. There is a universal energy flow that runs through all of us and all things. Einstein said it best – energy is matter, so where you put your energy becomes matter. This isn’t a woo-woo principle, but science. All of our brains are constantly jabbering on about frustrations, regrets, laundry, and to-do lists and by the time we realize, the day is over. So you must be intentional with your energy. You have to take control of your energy and put it where you want. And when that energy is in flow, go with it. Don’t fight it. Allow it. Even the shit. There’s a gift in it all. I promise.
Everything… is to be appreciated. Every moment of your life has gotten you here. The moments of triumph, yes. AND the experiences of trauma. Each is for purpose, if you allow it to be. Allow it to be. Have gratitude for it all. Your absent parent? Probably taught you independence. Your cheating ex? Can fuel self-worth. And the “mundane” moments too. The lone dandelion growing from a crack in the sidewalk, the rose opening to full bloom, the sliver of moon peeking over the stars. Notice. Appreciate. Savor. Suck the marrow out of each moment so that it is all thoroughly used up, and you are completely full at the end of each day, and the end of your life.
Here’s to 42, and what it offers us all.
Sept. 21 – F*Midlife! Join me and more than 100 others for this free webinar to learn how to take control of your life now. Your 30’s, 40’s and 50’s can be a crisis of feeling lost, stuck, and defeated… or it can be a catalyst to feel free, fulfilled and alive. We’ll discuss what’s hold you back, identify how to move past it, and, you will walk away with tools to create a path forward. Register here! (NOTE: Even if you can’t join live, by registering, you will get the recording, so make sure to register!)
Sept 24 – Positive Psychology (CAPP): If you yearn to make your mark on the world, join me for the Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology (CAPP) in Miami this Fall! We’ll spend 7 weekends together throughout 6 months so you can learn the science of happiness and human flourishing. This is perfect for everyone who wants to impact change, beginning with yourself. Click here for information and to join!
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