So you have a project or a dream you’ve been wanting to do…
…But you just can’t find time to do it.
…Or when you have time, it’s after work and you’re exhausted, so all you want is to drink wine and watch This Is Us.
…Or you make special time for it, but when you sit down, the inspiration is gone.
…Or you’re super inspired and FINALLY going for it – but you don’t have the money.
…Or your dog ate the materials… You get the idea.
We all have a million excuses why we aren’t doing what we want to do.
Even me. This morning, I outed myself to my Marketing Assistant. She’s been telling me to do more Facebook Lives because I want to impact more people and set the path to more TV appearances, but I keep not doing it.
So this morning, I dropped the excuses and got real.
I’m not doing them because I’m afraid of rejection. I used to do a video with every newsletter, but I felt stupid because my YouTube “likes” were small.
A client in my EMPOWERED program said she had no time to work out because of her kids, so I suggested they come on a walk with her. No excuses – get moving! A client in my F*Midlife program said she couldn't travel because of money, so I suggested she do a garage sale. No excuses – get moving!
What about you? What's the real reason you aren’t doing what you want? Hint: It's not your husband or job or time or money.
It's Fear. It’s that simple – and that hard. Our biology makes us desperate to belong so we fear failure, rejection, and other people’s opinions. You create mean nasty inner voices that tell you you’re afraid you'll never be thin, so you don't try, or you're not “good enough” to paint, or you're “stupid” to leave your job and start a business, or not deserving of spending money on yourself.
But the voices are lies to protect yourself from being hurt. Fortunately, brain research shows that as adults, we can choose to think about it differently. It's called “reframing” and it helps you get unstuck and get moving! If “only” 5 people watch my Facebook Live, then I impact 5 lives! If no one watches, then I evaluate the time of day, content, or just chalk it up as experience. (I have to tell you – that feels so much better!)
So, today, I’m moving past my fear, as I always have. When I was afraid of leaving my corporate job to follow my dream, or afraid that SiriusXM would reject me, I took a deep breath, reframed the opportunity, told myself how awesome I am, and moved forward! You can do it too!!
Below is a video I taped for you to get out of your own way, too. And TONIGHT, I’ll be live-streaming “Make Monday Happy” for free on my business Facebook Page at 6 pm. (Click here to follow the page and get notifications whenever I go live.)
You too can drop the excuses and shift your thinking, and you can get started now!
“See” you tonight – Remember, 6 pm HERE for my live, short webinar “Make Monday Happy.”
XO,
Carin
PS – If you need help getting unstuck, take the step to join me on a retreat, or email me for 1:1 coaching. I will help you clarify your desires, get out of your fear, and move forward!!!
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