Do you ever wish you could be more confident? Or wonder why you're not?
The fact is – we're in the middle of a women's confidence crisis.
Most women I know are smart, competent, and brilliant… but still often feel insecure about men, or self-doubt about going for the promotion, or they hold back at a networking event, or they get stuck wanting to pursue a dream.
In fact, several research studies have found that even though women are just as competent as men in fields from nursing to business, they are less confident than their colleagues. Did you know that a major reason why women make less than men is that we don't toot our own horns and ask for the raise?
I get it – as little girls, we were told not to brag. Just to smile. To speak when spoken to. I can't even tell you how many of my coaching clients were told that they were “too much” as little girls. And Josh told me that when he was a middle school teacher, the girls would sit back before raising their hands while boys would just blurt out answers – whether right or wrong. Girls become more self-conscious, more afraid.
Well, frankly, this needs to end. We deserve better. We need to claim our genius and RISE as the EMPOWERED, brilliant women we were born to be.
A few weeks ago, I hosted the incredible women in this year's EMPOWERED class – my 4 month group coaching program for women to become their most confident, most purposeful and alive selves – for a Goddess retreat. After spending the morning feeling into what it means to be an EMPOWERED woman – confident, free, alive, supportive of other women, goes for her dreams, believes in herself – I asked, “And what holds you back from being HER?”
One woman shared that after childhood trauma, she lost faith in herself.
Another lost confidence to an old relationship.
Another is afraid to go after dreams because she thinks she has to be perfect.
I resonated with each share because I've felt it all. In fact, with each share, we all cried tears of understanding.
And then I worked with each woman to fight back the critical voices, to set her wild Goddess self free, to look in the mirror and see the beauty that we all see and STAND IN HER POWER.
One by one, each woman ROSE in her confidence, her power, and her GLORY so that by the end of the retreat, they all BRAGGED about their amazingness and declared “I AM AN EMPOWERED WOMAN. I AM HER.”
See, each of us has so much to be confident in. Our strengths, our courage, the fact that we've survived so much.
And we have to take control of our own happiness. We have to CHOOSE to be empowered. No one is going to do it for us.
The world wants to tell women everything that's wrong with us – we're too old/fat/skinny/young/ugly/blahblahblah – so IF WE DON'T CONTROL OUR CONFIDENCE, THEY WILL.
We have to do the work – the heart work, the mindset work, the daily work to remind ourselves what's genius and brilliant and beautiful about US.
We have to surround ourselves with women who will uplift us, support us, cheerlead us.
That's why I love for women to come into my Facebook Group and CELEBRATE their accomplishments, wins and strengths! Join us here and post a celebration or brag!
The thing is – we can't do this work alone.
We can't heal the wounds on our own and rise up in Confidence alone!
We need Sisters. We need a mentor. We need support to rise up.
Soon, I'll be launching the Goddess on Purpose online course to discover your glory, rise in confidence, and create a path to purpose. If you want to get on a waiting list for it, click here.
And in the meantime, here's a link to this week's PurposeGirl Power Bite – a juicy 2 minute video empowering and teaching you a couple of tools to rise in your confidence and glory. Click here to watch.
I love you and I believe in you!
PS – Did you miss last week's PurposeGirl Podcast episode? It was our 100th episode!!! And to honor it, I highlight some of the best moments. Want to know how to deal with anger and fear? Want to know what I started doing at 5 that every woman needs to do to be her happiest self? Want to know how to discover your purpose, overcome anxiety, start your own business, be a powerhouse in finances? Listen to Episode 100: Highlights from the First 100 Episodes and then go back and listen or re-listen to your favorites! Also, you'll hear that to honor YOU, my listeners for making The PurposeGirl Podcast ranked top 20 in self help or mental health in more than 30 countries, I'm offering a contest to win free coaching with me! Simply leave a 5 star review and subscribe, then take a screen shot showing both and email it to firstname.lastname@example.org by Feb 29 11:59 pm ET. We'll pick one winner! I can't wait to work with you! XO