Fortunately, life is really great right now for so many people. New, heathy relationships, fresh ideas, exciting projects… and yet… the NUISANCES of LIFE still threaten to get in our way. You know – the crap that can suck us into a tornado of negativity when all we want is to continue on our UPWARD path!
Because of survival, we are wired for negativity – it's called “negativity bias” – and this week, it threatened to take me down. Making decisions about how to take care of ourselves through the crappy negative situations is a key to living well. As bumper stickers say, “Sh*t happens!” But the crap isn't so easy to just ignore! We get swept up in the anger, the frustration, the sadness, the regret that before we know it, we have spiraled out of control. Meanwhile, we ignore all of the positive in our life. And then, we usually end up beating ourselves up for allowing the frustrating situation to bring us down with it.
Fortunately, positive psychology can help us understand how to use rational thinking and positivity to move past the negative spiral. The fact is that we experience positive and negative AT THE SAME TIME. Though we might like to push the negative away, instead, we have to learn how to manage it. We need to keep it in check so that we can focus on the positive.
In this week's “PurposeFULL Monday” video, I talk about how to keep those negative nuisances in check so that we can focus on the positive. As usual, I use a negative situation in my own life to demonstrate how being human leads us down the negative path – and how (with higher level thinking), we can put the negative in ints place and MOVE ON to all that is good! Enjoy and please post your comments and questions here. I love hearing from you!