Like it or not, partner or not, Valentine's Day is around the corner. It's such a funny holiday – a day dedicated to love. Why isn't every day dedicated to love? It should be. If we're living on purpose, it is.
So knowing that Valentines Day is here got me thinking about Love, of course. This year, I have an incredible man who is planning a surprise night out – and I KNOW I am super blessed. However, there have been plenty of years when I didn't have anyone to spend the holiday with. Since my ivorce, there have been plenty of nights when I felt lonely and depressed. To be completely transparent, I've said the meanest things to myself before. I've called myself a loser, a loner, told myself that I wasn't good enough. I've beaten myself up for past mistakes and spent way too long regretting. Maybe you can relate?
So knowing that Valentines Day is here got me thinking about Love, of course. This year, I have an incredible man who is planning a surprise night out – and I KNOW I am super blessed. However, there have been plenty of years when I didn't have anyone to spend the holiday with. Since my ivorce, there have been plenty of nights when I felt lonely and depressed. To be completely transparent, I've said the meanest things to myself before. I've called myself a loser, a loner, told myself that I wasn't good enough. I've beaten myself up for past mistakes and spent way too long regretting. Maybe you can relate?
Here's what I've learned, whether I have a boyfriend or not, if I beat myself up, I am blocking love from coming in and from going out. In self-shame, I can't possibly fully live my purpose and do my work. If I'm mean to me, how could I be a great daughter, friend or coach? The same is true for you – I guarantee it. Whether you have a husband or not – even if you have a gorgeous latin lover, if you berate yourself constantly then you are blocking yourself from having the life you want.
The answer of course is self-love, but who the heck knows how to love themselves? I know I didn't for a long, long time. Finally, I get it. And I want you to get it too. Because when you feel compassion, forgiveness and appreciation for who you are, trust me, it's better than that heart-shaped chocolate! So, in this week's PurposeFULL message I discuss how to shift this harmful behavior so that you CAN have the love you desire, a career you'll love and alive that will light you up!
Again, here are the tips:
1. Define “love” to you.
2. Use that definition to create self-love behaviors
3. Get help. If you need support in getting unstuck, moving forward in life and having what you want, then seek a coach, friend or other support. Asking for help is an incredibly beautiful way to show yourself love.
1. Define “love” to you.
2. Use that definition to create self-love behaviors
3. Get help. If you need support in getting unstuck, moving forward in life and having what you want, then seek a coach, friend or other support. Asking for help is an incredibly beautiful way to show yourself love.
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