Carin Rockind, Author at Carin Rockind

May 24, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

The PurposeGirl Podcast Episode 011: The Epidemic of Women’s Depression

Women’s depression is an epidemic. Women suffer depression at much higher rates than men, and more than half of women believe that it’s normal for women to feel depressed. And, I’ve struggled with my own anxiety and depression for years.

In today’s episode I discuss a number of reasons why women are more clinically depressed than men, including hormones, role confusion, dislike of our own bodies, the wage gap, exhaustion from trying to do too much, losing ourselves to the needs of others, rumination, and more. And for each of these I share a new way of looking at it, or a suggestion of something we can do to manage it more successfully.

Women are multi-faceted beings, and I talk about the different parts of us that make up who we are in all of our beautiful complexity, and why it’s so important to our own happiness and flourishing to embrace these different aspects of our nature.

So what can we do to combat this epidemic of depression among women? We must decide that we deserve better (#wedeservebetter #purposegirl), and we must commit to learning the science of women’s happiness for ourselves, for our daughters, for our communities, and for the world at large. And once we learn it for ourselves we must commit to teaching these tools to others.

I’m passionate about doing something big here to combat women’s depression, and I’m looking for women to join me in it. I’m looking for women who want to learn the science of women’s happiness for themselves and who will then teach it to others. I want to learn from this group of women about what they see as the reasons why women struggle with depression. I want to collaborate with them. With you. If this appeals to you, please email me (carin@carinrockind.com) and tell me that you want to be a part of this advisory group, that you want to discuss these issues and take action!

And as I often do, I end with a few Purpose Power Tools.

It would really mean a lot to me if you would go to iTunes and leave me a review (hopefully a great one!), leave a 5 star rating, subscribe to this podcast so you never miss an episode, and download the episodes! And please spread the word and help our community grow!

May you live purposefully, may you love yourself, and may you love life.

Bye for now!

May 24, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

What’s your BODY telling you?

How do you feel about your body?
Be honest.
Do you hate on it for your belly's softness?
Beat on it for not looking like you did when you were 21?
Or maybe you ignore it, hoping it leaves you alone?

If any of these resonate, you're not alone.
90% of American women dislike some aspect of their bodies.
And according to a 2016 study commissioned by Dove that researched more than 10,000 females in 13 countries, 85% of all women and 79% of all girls opt out of life activities – like dating, trying out for a team, going to a job interview, or spending time with friends and family – because they don't feel good about how they look.

This madness needs to end.
#WeDeserveBetter

We've been told a lie that our bodies are about looks. What BS!
Your body is an instrument to live your best, most vibrant life!
Your body allows you to:
*Dance
*Kiss
*Learn
*Write
*Sing
*Hold babies
*Run after grandchildren
*Speak to the board of directors
*Launch that bakery you've always wanted to
And so much more. Your body is a TREASURE for all it does for you!

We live this one glorious life full of nature walks, river rafting, acrylic painting, sweater knitting, pole dancing, orgasms, hugging your grandmother, running with your puppy, riding horses, presenting your business plan, being known as an expert in your field, riding a pink Cadillac with the top down and wind in your hair…
All of which requires a healthy, vibrant body.

So we need to change how we view our bodies from something that is “pretty” or not – to something that facilitates LIVING.
We need to change how we treat our bodies from dumptruck of pain to temple of desire and beauty.

Your body is always telling you what you want and need – and don't want – if you listen and treat it well. When you get a lump in your throat, butterflies in your belly, hardness in your chest, openness in your heart, tingles on your skin, chills up your spine – your body always gives you information.

But to hear your body, you have to love it with kindness and trust.

*Did you know that moving your body creates the protein BDNF which is like “miracle grow” for your brain? So when you move you literally create the opportunity for your brain to learn new habits, try new activities, and work for you?
*Did you know that 80% of serotonin (the mood hormone) is produced in your gut, so what you eat directly impacts depression?

You can make your body work FOR you and my recent podcast shows you how. (Click here to listen.) I interview Emiliya Zhivotovskaya, CEO and Founder of The Flourishing Center, the benefit-corp that created the brilliant Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology program. She's an expert in Mind-Body Medicine and she teaches us all about VITALITY. Listen to the episode here.

And if you don't have time to listen, here are 3 quick tips:
1. Look into your eyes in the mirror and say “I love you” gently and softly over and over again.
2. Choose a body part (like your belly) and think of all the things it does for you, and have gratitude for it.
3. Think about something you want to DO and how your body can help you with it. Thank your body for it.

The more you love your body, the more you'll hear what it's telling you, and the happier you'll be.

Here's to you living a life of Vitality and Joy!

XO,

Carin

May 17, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

The PurposeGirl Podcast Episode 010: Vitality – An Interview With Emiliya Zhivotovskaya

Emiliya is my personal role model in business, a woman truly living on purpose and making her decisions from her heart. She’s a very successful and accomplished entrepreneur, and she comes from a background with a real set of challenges that she needed to overcome, making her success even more impressive.

Emiliya shares her personal and business journey that led to where she is now, leading a B-Corp focused on increasing human flourishing around the world, and why flourishing and vitality are so important to her.

She discusses the concept of personal mastery, in particular striving for personal mastery of her own body. This personal quest is informed by her ongoing education into human flourishing in its many components, and in turn this informs her own work with others through The Flourishing Center and elsewhere. Increasing one’s own vitality can start in many ways, but Emiliya feels very strongly that foundational to everything else is providing your body with adequate sleep. Honoring your body’s need for sleep instead of seeing how much you can do with as little sleep as possible is a must if you wish to truly flourish.

We discuss the critical role that movement – and a variety of movements instead of the same exercise or movement over and over again – plays in our vitality. There are evolutionary reasons for this, and there is a measurable process that takes place in our brain when we engage in a variety of exercises and movements that positively impacts our brain functions. Emiliya explains the connections between physical activity and production of the hormone BDNF, which helps the neurons in our brain communicate better, as well as increased interconnectedness in our neural networks.

Emiliya talks about the Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology (CAPP) that she co-created and leads through The Flourishing Center (and for which I’m an instructor), why she started it, what makes it so special and applicable to so many facets of society, and why there’s such a genuine need for this training.

CAPP is taught in 14 cities all over the US in Canada, and if you’d like to learn more about CAPP you can go to GetCertifiedInPP.com. (For an added discount on your registration, use the code carinr27 for $100 off!)

To learn more about Emiliya and how to work with her, you can go to emiliya.com, and click on Contact at the bottom.

I end with our Purpose Power Up Play Round, which I love to do with my guests!

May you live purposefully, may you love yourself, and may you love life.

Bye for now!

May 17, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

The PurposeGirl Podcast Episode 010: Vitality – An Interview With Emiliya Zhivotovskaya

To learn more about Emiliya and how to work with her, you can go to emiliya.com, and click on Contact at the bottom.

I end with our Purpose Power Up Play Round, which I love to do with my guests!

May you live purposefully, may you love yourself, and may you love life.

Bye for now!

May 15, 2018 By Carin Rockind Leave a Comment

What To Do About Anger and Grief

“Just be positive!”

“Smile!”

This is great, but what about when you're in deep pain?
What about when your heart is breaking into a million pieces because your child has cancer?
What about when your veins are pumping fury and rage because your lover left you?
What about when your belly is ill because your company is doing layoffs and rent is due?

What about those very real emotions?
Is there room for Anger and Grief in Happiness?
Yes.

Positive psychology often gets dinged because people think it's “positive thinking.”
It's not.
Positive psychology is the scientific study of HUMAN flourishing, and it's VERY human to feel Anger, Rage, Sadness, Grief, Worry, and more!

These emotions give us information.
They tell us something we're desiring or needing.
They make us act. Anger makes us fight back, Grief makes us protect ourselves.
So we need to feel these feelings to heal.

However, most of us are hanging onto them for too long.
One woman I know has been (understandably) angry about her husband's infidelity for 12 years, even though they're divorced. It's ruined her self-esteem and has made her physically sick. He's having a grand ol' time remarried while she feels bitter, cold and ill. I don't blame her – I'd probably do the same thing. But is it serving her?

Stress emotions were only meant to be in our bodies for 90 seconds in order to produce cortisol and adrenaline, but we're hanging on to Anger and Grief and Worry for YEARS and over time, those healthy short-term hormones because long-term disease.
We have to move the emotion through.
But the world hasn't made it safe to Rage. Angry women are called Nasty Bitches.
The world hasn't made it safe to Grieve either. Sad women are called Emotional Depressives who need medication.
So we bottle it up, put on our happy face and pretend.
But that's when it starts showing up in the body as Dis-Ease – Disease!!
It shows up as weight, as shingles, as anxiety, as depression, as heart attacks and more.

So we need to MOVE the emotion THROUGH us.
Literally scream it out of our lungs!
Cry it out of our eyes!
Shake our bodies free.

I just did this on Sunday. I've shared my fertility journey with you, so first, Happy Mother's Day to all of you moms! And, as you can imagine that Mother's Day was hard for me. I would have been 9 months pregnant right now, ready to welcome my little one. So on Sunday morning, I went into a private room and moved the pain through my body. I screamed and stomped my rage, allowing myself a temper tantrum like a 2 year old. Then I danced slowly to a sad song, allowing myself to grieve my tears. Then I talked to a couple of Soul Sisters to move it through. Then I journaled my desires and tapped into my truth that I am a Goddess of Creation. I birth dreams – my own and my clients'. On Mother's Day, one of my clients who wants to start a wellness business led her first meditaiton class. Another told me she's planning her first art show! I birth dreams. I'm also birthing a book with my agent. I am birthing a new movement to teach healers the science of women's happiness. So I planted a garden – roses and tomatoes and cucumbers and herbs – to BIRTH creation! I then soaked in a warm bath and finished the night dancing about my fertile gorgeous healthy body!

I moved it through!
I share this story with you not for your sympathy, but to share how to work with these very human emotions.
You too have permission to feel it all.

My most recent podcast teaches you how to do this.

It will teach you how to work with anger, sadness, and any “dark” emotion you feel. When we embrace and love our WHOLE selves – our light and dark sides – our fiery sensuality and pure compassion – our intuition and our action – then we are our happiest, best, most purposeful selves!

Enjoy the episode, and please post how you work with painful emotions here on my blog.

With so much love!

XO,
Carin