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I am just coming off a spiritual retreat in Baltimore, a weekend with my honey in Philly and am now emailing you from Cleveland where I am speaking with Progressive Insurance about how to “Succeed from your Strengths!”
This topic made me think about my strengths – and wondering about yours. So often, people see me speak, or hear me on the radio and ask, “How do you do that? How can you speak to 500 people so easily??” I look at them and ask, “How do you do what you do so well?” We are often so caught up in what we aren’t that we forget to focus on who we are. The fact is that many of you are great with numbers and I am NOT – even though my mom is a mathematician! Some of you are incredible with direction – and I get LOST in my own neighborhood. You may have a gift with children, with art, with baking, that would totally amaze me and make me wonder, “How does she do that??”
That’s the beauty of individuality – we each have different strengths and talents. We each have collected distinct wisdom from our experiences. We each have a different purpose.
Your “job” is to know those strengths, hone those talents, and amp up your unique purpose to the world. So today, I taped this video for you from the airport as I’m getting ready to “amp up” my strengths in speaking this week. Amp up my energy, amp up my passion, amp up my purpose.
What strengths are you going to amp up today? How will you BRING IT this week? The world stands up and takes notice when you bring your best to it. I’ve seen this happen in my own life time and again. Just last week, media branding experts sent me a proposal to work with me because they see that I’m bringing my full passion to you. And this summer, I won a writing contest to have a chapter published in Christine Kloser’s anthology “Pebbles in the Pond Wave 3”, because I amped up my purpose through the contest entry I sent her. And as a bonus gift from G-d, 17 of my co-authors in the book were at the retreat with me last week and they graced my soul with their distinct strengths, beautiful souls and nourishing spirits.
I promise you, when you work from your strengths, amp them up and bring your full purpose to life, miracles unfold before your eyes. So I ask you, how are you going to amp it up this week? Email me – I can’t wait to see!
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Please Be Real
I'm writing from sunny Sanibel Island where my college girlfriends and I just had our annual reunion.Being with them really got me thinking about who I am at my core. My true values. My authentic self. And how I've gotten off track lately.
Sometimes, my ego sets in. I feel like I need to change to fit in. Does this happen to you? Maybe you see yourself acting differently in front of some of your colleagues or you find yourself dressing up to go to a certain part of town.
Why can't we just feel good enough as is??
You are more than enough. I am more than enough. In fact, to live on purpose we have to be our real selves. Not a covered up version. The world needs our truth. Our pain. Our wisdom!! We need you living your exact core strengths in this world. We need you sharing your unique wisdom to support others. As I shared in a keynote address to Jo-Ann Fabrics' HQ last week, you have unique gifts that ONLY YOU can contribute. But we need the authentic you, the real you. Even if you consider that version of you “imperfect.”
Leave it to friends of 20 years to call me out and ground me back into my true self. Thanks to them, I taped this video for you about keepin' it real! I taped this without makeup, in jeans. The world needs the authentic, passionate, emotional, a bit dramatic, kind, compassionate, funny, loving, sensitive, completely imperfect “ham” that I am!And the world needs YOU too!
Here's to keepin' it real! May you live purposefully, love yourself and love life!
At J0-Ann Fabrics' HQ!
My college friends! (No, we didn't plan our outfits!)
Love – Real Love
Like it or not, partner or not, Valentine's Day is around the corner. It's such a funny holiday – a day dedicated to love. Why isn't every day dedicated to love? It should be. If we're living on purpose, it is.
So knowing that Valentines Day is here got me thinking about Love, of course. This year, I have an incredible man who is planning a surprise night out – and I KNOW I am super blessed. However, there have been plenty of years when I didn't have anyone to spend the holiday with. Since my ivorce, there have been plenty of nights when I felt lonely and depressed. To be completely transparent, I've said the meanest things to myself before. I've called myself a loser, a loner, told myself that I wasn't good enough. I've beaten myself up for past mistakes and spent way too long regretting. Maybe you can relate?
So knowing that Valentines Day is here got me thinking about Love, of course. This year, I have an incredible man who is planning a surprise night out – and I KNOW I am super blessed. However, there have been plenty of years when I didn't have anyone to spend the holiday with. Since my ivorce, there have been plenty of nights when I felt lonely and depressed. To be completely transparent, I've said the meanest things to myself before. I've called myself a loser, a loner, told myself that I wasn't good enough. I've beaten myself up for past mistakes and spent way too long regretting. Maybe you can relate?
Here's what I've learned, whether I have a boyfriend or not, if I beat myself up, I am blocking love from coming in and from going out. In self-shame, I can't possibly fully live my purpose and do my work. If I'm mean to me, how could I be a great daughter, friend or coach? The same is true for you – I guarantee it. Whether you have a husband or not – even if you have a gorgeous latin lover, if you berate yourself constantly then you are blocking yourself from having the life you want.
The answer of course is self-love, but who the heck knows how to love themselves? I know I didn't for a long, long time. Finally, I get it. And I want you to get it too. Because when you feel compassion, forgiveness and appreciation for who you are, trust me, it's better than that heart-shaped chocolate! So, in this week's PurposeFULL message I discuss how to shift this harmful behavior so that you CAN have the love you desire, a career you'll love and alive that will light you up!
Again, here are the tips:
1. Define “love” to you.
2. Use that definition to create self-love behaviors
3. Get help. If you need support in getting unstuck, moving forward in life and having what you want, then seek a coach, friend or other support. Asking for help is an incredibly beautiful way to show yourself love.
1. Define “love” to you.
2. Use that definition to create self-love behaviors
3. Get help. If you need support in getting unstuck, moving forward in life and having what you want, then seek a coach, friend or other support. Asking for help is an incredibly beautiful way to show yourself love.
How to ACTUALIZE Your Desires in 2014!
Happy 2014!I am SO excited to email you this first PurposeGirl video of 2014! I know
it’s 2 weeks into the year… so how are your resolutions coming? Are you sticking to your goals?About 90% of all resolutions fail, so try something new this year. “Act as if” your goal has already happened instead! Instead of saying what you “will” do in 2014 – you will switch careers, you will lose weight, you will fall in love – visualize and EMBODY what you “will” look, feel and act like when these dreams come true! How will you carry yourself when you are healthier and love your body? How will you feel when you’re blissfully in love? What will you need to do to own to do this new career?  This week, I bought hot pink PurposeGirl sharpie markers to do book
signings– acting as if my book is already published and I'm on tour! Years ago, I was still in corporate marketing, but I set on path to my dreams of being in the media by buying a fabulous dress for the Emmy’s! I’m not yet up for an Emmy, but, I’m on my way with my new Dr. Oz work and on my regular work on Sirius Radio. Buying that dress set me in motion toward my dream of inspiring millions! And this has helped my friends and clients too! One client said she was working toward a career in museums and found herself connected to top folks in the industry. After giving her this tip, one of my friends introduced herself as a personal shopper (instead of a lawyer) at a networking event and the next thing you know, she has new business cards. It may sound crazy, but acting as if the dream has already happened begins
to create the path to actualizing our dreams because you are creating neural pathways that begin to believe that the dream has already occurred. Acting as if sets you in motion to greater and greater action! Plus, by acting as if, you tell the Universe that you’re ready for the next step.So, how can you “act as if” to make your dreams come true? Watch this week’s PurposeFULL message for more tips and WHY “acting as if” is SO important!I’m ready for a big 2014 – and acting as if it’s already happened! First step for me – actualize the luxury vacation I need! I’m off to Turks & Caicos tomorrow!! While I'm away, I hope you live purposefully, love yourself and love life! Here’s to YOUR success! |
"Happy" Holidays! Tips to Survive and Thrive
I have to tell you – I LOVE Christmas – which may sound funny for a Jewish girl to say! I just love the twinkling lights, the smell of cinnamon, the merry music… Ahhh… 🙂
However, if you're like many of my clients and friends, you may be super STRESSED out right now. People are running from store to store, sweating small details that probably don't matter and dealing with family frustrations. Mom is guilting you to spend more time with you than your in-laws, you have 18 nieces and nephews to buy for and only a day left to do it, the grocery store is sold out of the ONE ingredient you need for the cookies you promised to bring to Aunt Bertha's… AHHHH!!!!!
You deserve to be HAPPY this holiday season. Truly happy. In this special edition of Purpose-FULL messages, I share a few easy tips to get you through the holidays – with a smile on your face. Give yourself the gift of watching this short video. It will save you hours of pain – and better yet, give you lots of merriment this holiday season.