My guest today is Holley Kelley, a gerontologist, fellow in thanatology, multi-award-winning author, and founder of the Latter-Life Planning Institute. She is also host of the weekly radio show, Aging GreatFULLy, broadcasting globally on the CTR Network. Her career emphasis is helping people around the world Live Vibrantly, Plan Thoughtfully and Age Dynamically! As an aging influencer and death change-agent, Kelley is dedicated to promoting positive messages about aging, de-mystifying death and encouraging people to live life through their Bucket List.

She also is a huge advocate for personal end-of-life planning and has created her own novel approach called CREATE PEACE, outlined in her Amazon #1 new release and multi-award-winning book, Sunrises and Sunsets: Final Affairs Forged with Flair, Finesse and FUNctionality (https://amzn.to/2Tysxhh). Holley feels that if one has properly planned their final affairs, they can life their life more fully in the present. Through workshops, inspirational key notes, consulting, and other platforms, Holley helps people around the globe “prepare for the end and inspire their GRAND new beginnings!”

Holley says that aging is the gift of life, because think of what it means if you’re not aging! She offers a number of strategies for reframing what it means to age and how we should view it, and also addresses the typical ways in which women experience aging differently than men. She talks about the benefits of a bucket list, and how the creation of a bucket list can really get us in touch with ourselves and our dreams. Holley teaches her clients that the most important thing they can do to age well is to work on their mindset, and once they work on that, the other pieces can fall into place. She shares with us research about the effects of our thinking about our age on our health, and offers tips for things we can start doing today, regardless of our age.

To learn more about Holley Kelley, check out her website (https://http://www.latterlifeplanningiinstitute.com), and follow her on Instagram (@lifesanattitude), Twitter (@lifesanattitude), and Facebook (Holley Kelley / Latter-Life Planning Institute).

Holley recommends Jen Sincero’s book, You Are A Badass, which you can get here: https://amzn.to/2S7cF3H

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This episode is the fourth in a six-part series in which I take you through six different pathways to happiness, to human flourishing, and with each one I’ll provide you with tools that you can use. This is all based on the current research through a framework called PERMA-V. In today’s episode I’ll teach you all about the M – Meaning – and every other week, when I do a solo episode, I’ll be discussing another one of the 6 pathways. After you listen to each episode, I hope you’ll practice the tools I’m providing so you can apply this to your own life.

Here’s a bit of background to help put all of this in context. In the first episode in this series (Episode 30) I discussed a bit of the history of psychology in the twentieth century and the birth of the field of positive psychology, which stemmed from the recognition that we needed to focus on and learn more about wellness, and not just illness. A key idea in positive psychology is that the absence of illness is not wellness. Just because you don’t have diabetes or cancer doesn’t mean you’re healthy, and just because you haven’t been diagnosed with depression or bipolar disorder doesn’t mean you’re thriving and flourishing. Positive psychology started developing the understanding that, more than the surface happiness, which, while it’s pleasurable, is more fleeting, we should be learning to cultivate a deeper, more fulfilling happiness. I addressed the concept of the hedonic treadmill as part of the reason why the search for more money and a better job doesn’t lead to true, deep, lasting happiness, and what Aristotle called “eudaimonia,” or wellbeing and flourishing.

The field of positive psychology has been studying what it takes to really cultivate our own wellbeing and the wellbeing of others, and a recent theory has laid out 6 pathways to flourishing: PERMA-V.

• Positivity
• Engagement
• Relationships
• Meaning and Purpose
• Accomplishment and Achievement
• Vitality

In today’s episode I discuss Meaning and Purpose, obviously a topic near and dear to my heart. I talk about how meaning and purpose are so critical to living a happy, fulfilled life, and how Abraham Maslow addressed this in his “hierarchy of needs” (referring to self-actualization). I define purpose as the unique, active impact that you make in the world, and I dive into the concept of purpose in great detail, why it’s so important, why the search for purpose can be so challenging, and how we can begin to uncover our own purpose. I end with several Purpose Power Tips around your own purpose.

Here are a few resources I mentioned:

Ritual, a fantastic supplement that you can get here: https://ritual.com/purposegirl

The Women’s Happy Shop:

https://bit.ly/womenshappy

Victor Frankl, Man’s Search For Meaning, which you can get at Amazon:

https://amzn.to/2RT3VxZ

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My guest today is Pax Tandon, author, producer, wellness advocate, teacher, and former news anchor. Her mission is to effect mass positive change on the planet, and she believes that the practice of Mindfulness is vital to this mission. Her book, Mindfulness Matters, is out now. She also recently finished work on the Mindfulness Matters short film, which she co-produced, co-wrote, voiced and starred in. Tandon holds a Master’s Degree in Positive Psychology, and certifications in mindfulness, positive psychology coaching, yoga, and past life regression therapy.

Pax believes that mindfulness is the foundation of thriving, and that without purpose, or rather, without aligning with our true purpose, we can never fully achieve well-being. Mindfulness can help us cultivate the inner attunement we need to listen to our inner voice and stay on our “due North” path toward fulfillment. She defines mindfulness as a non-judgmental awareness of the present moment, the ability to sit with the present moment, just as it is, without actively trying to change it or resist it.

Pax addresses some of the many benefits of developing mindfulness, including an improved ability to manage one’s emotions in a healthy way. We can become less reactive and less judgmental and learn to interact with our world in a much more objective, calm way. Do we want to live in upset, frustration, and anger much of the time, or do we want to release ourselves from that, liberate ourselves from that, and live differently?

Mindfulness practices also cultivate empathy, because as we are better able to understand our own thoughts and emotions, so we become better able to relate to and understand others. And as we are better able to regulate our own emotions we become better decision makers, as we can consider options more objectively and be less influenced by overpowering emotions in the heat of the moment. Being in a more positive state of mind is good for so many reasons, including improving our physical health, our social connections, and our ability to do creative problem solving.

In our society today with so many distractions and demands on our attention, it’s so important for us to be able to exercise greater control over where we'd like to place our attention. Discipline and self-regulation are fundamentally liberating. They liberate you from attachments to things that aren’t in your highest and greatest good.

Pax also talks about the importance of a gratitude practice as part of one’s overall mindfulness practice, specifically the writing of gratitude letters; mindfulness in eating; and, the connections between mindfulness and purpose.

To learn more about Pax, you can follow her on Instagram (@paxtandon) and Twitter (@paxtandon), connect with her on Facebook (Pax Tandon), and check out her website (www.paxtandon.com). You can get her new book, Mindfulness Matters: A Guide to Mastering Your Life, at Amazon (https://amzn.to/2SOfdVC). Pax recommends the book, Stealing Fire, which you can also find at Amazon (https://amzn.to/2yYJAjC).

I’ll be talking more about it in the future, but I mentioned the opening of the Women’s Happy online store, which you can find at https://Bit.ly/womenshappy.

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