I'm sorry to be silent for so long. I've been in intensive Self-Compassion training at the most beautiful place on earth, Esalen, and while that may sound really warm and lovely, it was hard. Really hard.
In order to learn Self-Compassion… you have to look at all of the harsh, ugly places where you AREN'T compassionate with yourself.
And most of us don't want to do this work. Yet we need to. The voices are abusive and killing our spirits. They're certainly killing our dreams. And we deserve better. You deserve better. So do I.
That means that I spent last week with my innermost demons. The ones that call me names. The ones that tell me I'm no good. The dark, ugly, monsters that hide in corners of my heart just waiting for me to screw up so that they can pounce on me with hatred.
What do your demons say to you? Call you fat? Ugly? Tell you you don't belong? That you're no good? What do they say when you lay awake tossing at night? Or in the mirror after you shower?
The only way to heal is to peel back the onion and learn to love your core.
Inside of you is a little You – the one who thought she had to be perfect to be loved. The one who was told that if she talked to much in class, boys wouldn't like her. The one who believed she was too tall, too short, too big, too skinny, too wild, or too tame to be lovable.
Little You CREATED the inner critic. My inner 8 year old perfectionist created the voice that tells me I'm a loser so that I perform better in the future. One of my EMPOWERED clients has always told herself to “Shut up! Stop showing off! People won't like you!” in order to be lovable. So she stopped speaking up at work, stopped asking for promotions, and she even gained a bunch of weight so that others didn't have to “see” her.
She's not alone and neither are you and neither am I. We're in this together.
We become EMPOWERED by learning to LOVE the little selves inside. To love her so much that you treat her with tender kindness, as you would an actual crying, hurting 8 year old. To love her so much that you forgive her for being imperfect – for being real. To love her so much that you listen to her dreams and desires without dismissing them as “silly,” “stupid,” “irrational,” or “irresponsible.” To love her so much that you practice, practice, practice self-compassion.
That's what I'm trying to do. After 5 years of doing this work, I STILL go there sometimes. That's why I went to training. I have to invest in myself to grow. So we'll do it together. I taped this video for you on my last day of the training for you to begin becoming more compassionate with yourself.
ALSO, A HOLIDAY BONUS FOR YOU TO BECOME EMPOWERED IN 2017!
In just 8 days, we begin my most POWERFUL coaching program, EMPOWERED, for you to become the confident, clear, powerful woman you were born to be – and there's still time to join us!
EMPOWERED is a 4 month Mentorship and Sistherhood to come ALIVE and be FREE! From January 1 through the end of April, I will personally coach you through a journey to discover yourself, define your life vision, and create a path to follow it. You'll join a small group of incredible like-minded women who will be your support, This program is about taking charge of your life. After this program, women have:
- Started businesses
- Gone back to school
- Spoken up at work and to their partners
- Left abusive relationships
- Started loving relationships
- Created boundaries with family
- Become confident in asking for what they want
- Made best friends in their Sisters
- LEARNED to LOVE themselves
In this program, you get more than 40 hours of coaching with me, more than 100 pages of “PurposeBook” (workbook) to clarify dreams and cut through obstacles, 14 guided meditations, 2 incredible retreats, a Big Sister who has been through the program before, a loving, supportive sisterhood, a private community for support, and so much more.
AND AS A BONUS…
EVERY WOMAN WHO JOINS EMPOWERED WILL ALSO GET 6 MONTHS OF FREE MEMBERSHIP IN THE F*MIDLIFE CLUB!!! This is the club to take charge of your health, your sex life, and get your adventurous side in action! An added $300 value – totally free!
But, Josh and I are going on vacation on Monday, so the doors to EMPOWERED are closing! You must sign up for EMPOWERED by Christmas Day, December 25 in order to ensure that you totally take charge of your life in 2017! This program will change your life.
As Wendy from Atlanta said, “This program can be literally life changing. It was for me. I was stuck and on autopilot – doing and acting as the world expected. Carin’s program was all about finding out what it is that I expect and what I want out of this life. It continues to blow my mind – often. I am unpacking and reworking 40 years of stories. I am finding out who I am at 40 and how to fill me up in every way, and I am continuing to connect and grow friendships, with my sister soulmates, a group of women like no other that I’ve ever met. As we frequently say to each other – we just “get it.” If you’re ready for it, and even if you’re not, Carin’s group will pay you back in a zillion ways you never even knew were possible.”
If you want the results that Wendy and these women have had… if you're ready to commit to yourself… and you're ready to join me in making 2017 FREAKING FANTASTIC, then join me in EMPOWERED. We only have a couple of spots left. It will change your life!
With so much love!
PS – Remember, we go on vacation on Monday, so you only have until December 25, Sunday, to register for EMPOWERED! Contact me if you want more information, to have a call to see if EMPOWERED is for you, or to join us. Time is running out!