I'm off to my Goddess Girls retreat in Miami Beach, which will be SO much fun, but let's be honest…
Life is all fun and games… until it's not.
Happiness sometimes tricks us. We think there is some “happily ever after” that we'll finally have one day and then we'll be free of challenge.
We're taught that we'll be happy when we:
-Get the Man
-The House
-The Job
-The Money
-The Vacation
THEN, you'll be happy. Free of all issues.
But that's not what life is.
Life is a roller coaster of delicious highs and treacherous lows and as Powerful Women, we have the strength, courage and capacity to thrive WITH it all.
Nine years ago, my friend Ed drowned before my eyes. I tried to save him, I tried throwing him a rope, I tried getting help, but slowly, his head sank under the water and he was gone forever. The pain almost made me not go to graduate school for positive psychology. I thought, “If Ed can't live, how can I?”
Then I remembered, because Ed didn't live, I must.
The past few weeks I've dealt with a lot of crap, and sometimes, it seemed like the storm wouldn't end.
Finally, a MASSIVE tree fell onto our yard. During a torrential thunder and lighting storm, the trunk split and ripped into pieces all over our yard and the street.
Talk about a metaphor for life.
I, too, fell to the ground. Crying, screaming, eating ice cream.
And then I remembered that I am not a Victim.
Rather, I'm a Creator. And that tree falling down showed me that I've been ignoring some challenges in life that I didn't want to deal with. I've been acting like a “little girl” – a “Princess” who needed to be rescued – instead of a Queen of my domain who deals with all of life.
So the tree had to fall for me to Rise up as a Queen. And now, I'm grateful for all the crap! What a GIFT! The same is true for you. For all of us.
Happiness isn't yellow smiley faces. It isn't everything going perfectly well all the time like you see on Facebook.
Real Happiness is DEEP.
It's sucking the marrow out of life.
It's rising above.
It's learning and growing and elevating from challenge.
It's realizing that the trees fall FOR you.
It's using all the Pain for Purpose to make your mark in the world!
We are not Victims.
We are Powerful Women.
We are the Creators of our lives.
Sometimes we're given a playground of light joyful mermaid colors and songs to Create.
And sometimes, we're given dark shadows and painful lessons to Create. It's both/And.
But it's all Creating.
And at the end of the day, if you Create, you'll be Happy.
If you spend time doing what FILLS YOU, if you give YOUR gifts, YOUR talents, YOUR wisdom that comes from all the challenges you've had, you'll feel fulfilled at the end of your life.
And then, we'll be “happy”.
On the current episode of the PurposeGirl Podcast, I share the full story of that day with Ed and tools to recover from grief, pain, loss, anger, and challenge. I teach you how to move through the stages of grief and use “Post Traumatic Growth” to thrive from challenge. No matter your challenge, this episode will help you Rise. And ultimately as Purpose Women, that's why we're here. Click here for the episode.
And now, I'm off to Create from the LIGHT. From joy! From the ocean in Miami and the beauty of the Versace Mansion!
Here's to CELEBRATING ALL of LIFE!
Here's to LIVING FULLY ALIVE!
Here's to YOUR HAPPINESS!
XO,
Carin
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