I love love. How about you?
Loving love may mean that you love Valentines Day or you hate it. When I divorced my first husband, I remember dreading it so much. I wanted a companion, a partner, a best friend to bring me flowers and hold my hand. And then I was so frustrated with myself for wanting it because I identified as an “independent woman” who “shouldn't need” love.
The fact is that needing love is human. Psychology research shows that our early ancestors needed to be loved to survive. They needed to belong so that their tribe protected them, so our brains are wired to need it today.
The question is how to get it. So here are 3 pathways for more love:
1. Self-Love: Self-love is giving yourself the love that you give to others. If you want a partner to adore you, then what would self-adoration look like? If you want a partner to respect you, how can you further respect yourself right now? How do you pleasure yourself? What do you say to yourself in the mirror? Do you have “primers” or affirmations around the house to remind you that your body is beautiful and your dreams are sacred? If you struggle with self-love, I've written a Self-Love Guide and Workbook that will teach you how to flip negative self-talk into positivity, show you what's wonderful about you, and give you immediate tools to have more self-love NOW! Click here for the self-love guide.
In fact, I've found it necessary for my mental well-being to have “primers” of self-love all around me. That's why we created self-love products for you like the “YOU ARE PERFECT AS IS” mug, the “I CHOOSE” necklace, “My Dreams are Sacred” art prints and more, so head over to the shop right now if you want to double down on self-love for you, or give it to a friend! Click here to go to the Happy Woman Shop!
2. Sisterhood: Every woman needs a tribe of loving, cheerleading, supportive women around her. This past weekend, I kicked off my EMPOWERED group coaching program in Miami and these incredible women mirrored each other's strengths and gifts. When one woman, who is in the middle of chemotherapy therapy treatments finished the retreat, she said “The love, the healing, the acceptance, and the support that I experienced was beyond anything I could have imagined. It was medicine for my soul.” When I had my miscarriage, I leaned on my Sisterhoods to nurse me back to health. When I wanted to expand my impact on the world, I leaned into a Sisterhood of other women entrepreneurs. Hundreds of years ago, men were at war or hunting for food, so women cared for the villages together. Therefore, needing connection with other women is in our bones and cells. We were never meant to do life alone. So if you crave a tribe of incredible women, know that you can join our PurposeGirls: The Women's Happiness Network Facebook group and we will love all over you. It's a safe place to receive connection and tons of support! Click here to join!
3. Romance: Whether you're in a romantic relationship or not, chances are you crave a bit more. Maybe you want more intimacy with your partner or you want your lover to write you more love letters. Josh and I show love differently so we're always revisiting how the other wants and needs to be loved. Given that I'm not an expert in romance, I've brought in one of my favorite Love Experts on this week's episode of The PurposeGirl Podcast. Marni Battista is a dating coach and romance expert who has taught me how to be open to receiving more love. I found her before I was married to Josh and loved the refresher course I got when interviewing her! This interview is for every woman wanting love and wanting to get it with dignity! Click here to listen!
Of course, there are more pathways to love – furry friends, kids' raspberry smooches, and time with Mother Nature, but I hope these 3 pathways above give you an ignited boost today.
You deserve all the love in the world.