I have a confession: Sometimes I have overwhelming anxiety. Like debilitating – can't move forward – can't breathe Anxiety with a capital “A.” Maybe you do too.
And maybe I'm crazy for posting this here. Sometimes when I share my “darker” truths, friends and family text me, “You can't do that! They come to you for happiness!” And that's why I post the truth. Because you come to me for Happiness. You can't be truly happy if you deny the truth of your feelings. Happiness is not blissful joy in every moment. Happiness is struggling well toward your desires. Happiness is listening to your heart, not the fear in your head. Happiness is BEING YOU. Loving you – all of you – even the dark places! Did you know that diamonds are bright not just because of “light” but also because of the contrast in their darkness? Same is true for us humans!
Fear is a very real human emotion and you must move through it to have joy! It's when you don't move through it that you're unhappy. Most people let fear and anxiety rule them and thus they don't follow their purpose to joy! It's when you fight your feelings and make yourself wrong for them that you create further struggle and self-loathing. Believe me, I know.
The truth is that fear is human. That's right. We can't be “fearless” because we are animals and have the fear response in order to save our lives when a predator attacks. Anxiety is human too. It alerts you to potential danger. The key is knowing what's a real predator and when there is real danger. A figure chasing you with a knife in a dark alley = real danger. Run. Tornado warning on your radio = real danger. Get shelter. Showing your real, true self to the world. Asking people for help. Admitting you don't know how to do something. Wanting something desperately but not knowing how to make it happen. All potential dangers – not real. They feel real. Oh yeah – they feel VERY real. Because at some point you got burned. You showed yourself in 4th grade and were rejected, or you asked for help at home and were told to be independent. So yeah, it feels very dangerous.
Your anxiety is doing its job to protect you. Thank you Anxiety. And it's not necessary in these cases. Now it is holding you back. It's been holding me back for sure.
Here's my BIG DREAM: To create a MOVEMENT. A real movement to INSPIRE PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIVING. In addition to coaching, groups and retreats (which I love), I want EVERY PERSON to live his or her purpose. To be a PurposeGirl or PurposeDude, for us all to be PurposePeople. For each of us to uncover our purpose and live our true destiny!! That's HAPPINESS!!!!
And… I have no idea how to start a movement. I need help with social media platforms like how to do a Podcast and enroll others in listening, and I need connections to media outlets like TV stations and LiveHappy, I need to know how to scale my message to make it easy to understand and follow. I have so many ideas – a quiz to help you identify where you are in the PurposeProcess, products to proudly tout what kind of “PurposeGirl” you are, a signature workshop for corporate employees to align their purpose to the company mission, weekly PurposeParty shows where I interview someone living their purpose to show you how you can too, an online blog/magazine with other contributors. Giving you the info, showing you the way.
And it all terrifies me and sometimes makes me want to go to bed!
But I can't go back to bed. I have these ideas because they are meant to come to fruition. EVERY DREAM YOU HAVE WAS GIVEN TO YOU TO ACHIEVE. I have been given this purpose from G-d, just like you. I now just have to surrender and ask the Universe for help. For a speaking agent, for marketing help, for sponsors to move the movement forward. I'm ashamed I haven't moved more forward, but according to Brene Brown, shame can only live in dark places. So here I am bringing it into the light. Asking for your ideas to carry the mission forward. Asking you to identify your own purpose so we can all move forward together. We can't let fear and anxiety stop us. We must lean on each other and breathe together in love to move forward. Humans are pack animals. Together is how we've survived for thousands of years. So, let's do this together. This Purpose Promise thing. You can do it. I can do it. We can do it.
To your Purpose,
With love and extreme gratitude, Carin