Sister, I think this might be the best episode of the PurposeGirl Podcast yet. Wanna know some juicy details about my sex life, what it looks like on the inside of working in PurposeGirl, get some sneak peaks at what's coming up soon, and get juicy as can be with me?
This episode is for you!
Today's guest is someone you have come to love – though not as much as I love her! – and we're talking all things pride and sexuality, PurposeGirl land, juicy manifestation, and we're even going to give you a sneak peak into what is upcoming for PurposeGirl.
Today's guest is none other than my right hand woman, my soul sister, the COO of PurposeGirl (yes promotion!), Rachel Schor. The whole episode is just a big mushy love fest, so if you need some powerful feminine energy in your day, this is a great episode to tune into.
Listen to this episode to hear us dish on:
- Our coming out stories – how we realized we were LGBT, how we shared it with other people, and how we feel about our orientations now.
- Some steamy details about our sex lives
- An inside look at what it's like to work in PurposeGirl land, and the scoop on the job openings we have available!
- Some exciting details about the upcoming retreats to Miami and Paris
- A dreamy manifestation of where we see PurposeGirl in the future
- What it's like working with a supportive team, and how you can find team for whatever stage of business you're currently growing into.
Connect with Rachel Schor:
Learn About ALMND: http://www.hialmnd.com
About Rachel Schor:
Rachel (she/her) currently resides in Portland, OR where she manages daily operations of the ALMND team and works alongside her client-partners.
She graduated from the George Washington University’s Elliott School for International Affairs with a BA in International Affairs, with a Concentration in Conflict Resolution, and a Minor in Spanish.
She is Certified in Applied Positive Psychology (CAPP), a RYT200 certified Yoga instructor, and has also spent many years working as a Stage Manager and Operational Manager, where she learned to hone her organizational and management skills.
Outside of business hours she can be found cooking, reading, or enthusing about Rupaul’s Drag Race.
Connect with Carin Rockind:
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Are you ready for true happiness, for deep fulfillment, for feeling alive on purpose and in control of your life again, it's time to be the bold, brilliant, beautiful woman you were born to be. Welcome to the PurposeGirl podcast. I'm women's happiness and life purpose expert, Carin Rockind. And I'm going to teach you how to live on purpose, feel alive and be happy in every aspect of life. I'm going to get real about my life and interview women who are living on purpose. So that you can finally live yours. Welcome to the show.
Hello, hello. Hello, my purpose girl. I have the best, most fun, juiciest guest for you today. You're seriously gonna die. Okay. Now before you start thinking like did she get Oprah or something like that? Dare I say, even better? Because here we are, It's June. We're in the middle of Pride Month and I really take seriously wanting to support my LGBTQ sisters. I myself identify in the LGBTQ family. And it's important that we educate, that we inform, that we are open, that we are loving and here I was looking for the perfect guest when she was right in front of my eyes the whole time. Because my COO, was assistant, newly promoted COO, Rachel Schor, she is my right hand. She is like, everything PurposeGirl. She is a proud, proud, proud, queer woman. And so my guest today is our very own Rachel. And what is so fun about this is we're just gonna have a total conversation like two girlfriends, two soul sisters, we each consider each other sisters, just dishing about all things in life. I have no idea what's gonna come out. We're gonna get raw for both of us about our own discovery in our sexual identity and who we are, we're going to get very real about what we encounter, what we have encountered. We're gonna get fun and juicy about what's going on in PurposeGirl land and what it's like to live here and work here on PurposeGirl because we do have spots open that we'll talk a little bit about too. We're just gonna talk everything, everything, everything, everything. And so I am so excited, so honored, like so beyond I cannot believe it's taken this long to get her on the PurposeGirl podcast. What are we waiting for? To introduce you to our very own, Rachel.
(hehehehe) Thank you so much for having me. This feels like the perfect episode. I'm so thrilled. Thank you so much.
It is the perfect episode and Like Rachel's always behind the scenes with the podcast, right? like posting it all over the place. She editS some of the episodes, doing the artwork or show notes or whatever it might be. And so I love it. It's like of course you need to be on this side of the microphone. Let me tell you a little bit about Rachel. She identifies as she/her. She currently resides in Portland, Oregon, where she manages the daily operations of her all manned team and works alongside her client partners, one of which is me and PurposeGirl. She graduated from George Washington University's Elliott school for international affairs with her BA in international affairs and a concentration in conflict resolution. Thank the frickin Lord because I need that in my life. (hehehe) I'm Not (hahahaha) easy. I'm Not easy. Let's just be honest. Someone with my personality is not easy and she handles me like a charm. And she has a minor in Spanish. how sexy and hot is that? She is certified in applied positive psychology. Hell yeah, she is. She's a certified yoga instructor and has spent many years working as a stage manager and operational manager where she honed her organizational management skills. Outside of business, she can be found cooking, so good, cannot wait for you to make me a meal. Reading, hosting queer dinner parties in her apartment, painting the girlfriend like you should see her painting is so good, whether it's just like her wall in an apartment that I could seriously never do or painting otherwise. And of course enthusing about RuPaul's drag race Rachel, welcome to the PurposeGirl podcast.
(ehihihi)Thank you so much. I'm so happy to be here(hihihi).
I think we're coming up on our one year anniversary.
We are. I think it's like truly right around the date that we're recording this because you left for maternity leave like four seconds after hiring me. (ahahahaha)
(I) Literally, literally four seconds and Shea's birthday is in two weeks. So we should look back. What if this is our anniversary? oh my gosh, that would be so amazing. Oh, look it up. She's gonna look it up. So, Rachel is such a superstar because I was going on maternity leave and I thought I had done my due diligence of hiring an assistant who worked with me for like, I don't know three weeks or four weeks and then she decided to get a full time job or a full time job just came to her. And I was like, Oh my god, I'm going away. I need somebody right? Because me going on maternity leave. Josh, my other right hand here. My left hand maybe he was going on paternity leave. Obviously, we're married have the same baby. So I needed somebody. And in comes, in comes Rachel and knew nothing about PurposeGirl, knew nothing about me and the very first thing she had to manage and deal with was Shea's birth crisis. And the poor thing is like sending me message after message in the hospital and like tell me to just tell people what's going on, they're asking questions, and it was like, your first day on the job. (hahahaha) (ah)
Also, it was the 16th. And today's the 19th. So we missed it. (oh my gosh) Happy anniversary. (hahaha)
Wow. And in that time, you'd have gone from being my assistant to now being my COO, which y'all don't even know. But I've been on this journey.The step into being CEO, like rather than just thinking, Oh, I'm a coach, I'm a solopreneur. I have my own, like, little business over here. I'm like, No, if I fucking wanna create something, my mission is for women to run the world. And so I need like a company for that. And that means me stepping into CEO in a whole different way, which my coach is working with me on. And that meant bringing someone in or elevating somebody who is gonna run the whole business. And that is Rachel. So she just got her promotion. go Rach.
It's an honor, it's an honor. Really, it is.
Alright, so there's so much we're gonna talk about. But here we are in the middle of Pride Month. And it was super important to me that my guests this month, are representative in the LGBTQ community and that we are talking as openly and honestly and candidly as we can, so that we create more love in the world. So Rachel is just like dive in. Can we talk about your own story of discovery, about your truth and who you are.
For sure. So I'll start by saying I identify as queer and I will get up on my soapbox shortly to explain why that feels like it suits me best, but (Carin: say it sister, speak) (hahahaha). I want that soapbox. (Carin: I love a woman on a soapbox). Yeah. (uhm) to identify as queer, I didn't realize that I was not straight until I was like a junior in college. So for somebody who comes from a very welcoming and, you know, accepting family, I have a sister who is I think she would identify as gay (uhm). She has only ever dated women (uhm). So it was not as though like I was afraid or like there was any stigma that I had to worry about. It was really, really lucky in that sentence (uhm). Mom, I know you're listening to this episode and (uhm) thanks for that. (hehehehe) Fun fact.
(Love you, Ellen.) By the way, Rachel's mom is like it, one of my soul sisters, and does all of my programs. So Ellen, (Rachel: She's the best) we love you, you are the best. And truly, we know, Rachel, that there are, unfortunately, way too many moms and dads and just parents in general who are not as supportive, and not as open.
Yeah. So I was really lucky to have parents where like, it wasn't that I was afraid to share that part of me, I just never really considered it for myself. And I think a lot of that is a combination of a society that was not necessarily ready to welcome women in that way. You know, I think it's so much easier, or at least if you look at any kind of like the cultural representation of what it meant to be like, quote unquote, gay before, like, the last handful of years, it was always gay men. (hhmm) And there's no judgment with that, of course, you know, like, I support all all the whole spectrum of love and the people who love other people, or choose to not love other people.
Yeah, when we think of, we think of gay men, right? We immediately (hmm) maybe go to the Fab Five, Queer Eye for the (hmm) straight guy, right? So, you know, all these quote unquote, I'm, I'm just gonna, like, (yah) quote unquote stereotype of the fabulous, you know, men who are (right), you know, designing all of the interior, you know, and I'm not saying that's my belief, but that's kind of what society has always felt.
Right. And like, in theory, that was also like most easily digestible, I imagine you know, and like a lot of those men were white men, like there's so many levels of like the intersectionality of like, why it was hard for women, especially women of color, especially are like transistors like that. Anyway, we can get into that later. But so it really just like never crossed my mind. I mean, like, I was like the president of the Gay Straight alliance in high school and like, still never crossed my mind. That's something for me. And like, I look back on times in high school and being like, oh, like, that was definitely a crush that I had on that person. Like, that wasn't just like, wow, I think she's so coo (ahahahaha)l. She's like, oh, we're good friends. (you're like, oh) Right? Oh, no, I like her. (yeah) Yeah,
yeah (yea yeah yeah). And it's so interesting. Yeah, you were the president of the Gay Straight Alliance,(mm hmm) and didn't (proud ally) Proud ally (ahahahaha). Because you can be an ally ambi and at the same time, right? (yes) we want everybody to be all the things. So then you're a junior in college, and what happens?
I become a junior in college and I don't even necessarily know what was different. Or like what opened my eyes to it. But I started spending time with this one person who ended up becoming my first girlfriend, her name is Cameron, I can't imagine that she'll ever listen to this. But Cameron, thanks for you. If you ever do hear this (ahahaha). We love you. She was very sweet (uhm) and was wonderful for me in so many ways. (hmm) And we spent a lot of time working together because we ended up working on a lot of the same shows in the extracurricular theatre company that we worked with at GW. And so, we just kind of by proximity saw each other all the time. And I felt those same like ad-, like admiration feelings that I had felt in the past and had never put like two and two together on before. Except this time, they were kind of like, reciprocated. And then I was like, oh, maybe this is flirting. And not (hahahaha) maybe this is flirting and not actually just (uhm) like two girls be like, "Oh, you're so cute. Oh, no, you're so cute." And like, that's the other part of it is like girls are so like, excited to hype each other up. It's like, I can never (you do that all day long?) Right?
already this morning. Rachel and I have texted about who loves each other more. So literally like, right? That's what (right) we do. that is what
it's hard. (what we do with) It's really hard (each other). Yeah. Being in the phase of having these feelings being reciprocated, I was like, I don't know what this means for me (mmh). Uhm, and so it really started to propel me down that path. And around that time, I had two really, really dear friends who were both women, who identify as bisexual. (uhm) And I'm still very close friends with both of them. Uhm, and I talked to both of them. And I was like, I don't understand what this means. But I feel like there's something here like, how do I explore this? Like, what do I do, and both of them were just like, just like, take another step in that same direction and see what happens, you know, like, go on a date with Cameron or like, you know, see, see what happens. And ultimately, what ended up unfolding was like a really lovely two year relationship with Cameron, in which I realized that it wasn't that I didn't necessarily not enjoy sex, or that I didn't have like, really strong sexual, like feelings are romantic, like feelings or have that kind of attraction. And like, I was starting to feel like everyone else had these like passionate relationships with men that I just like, never understood and thought that it was about me. (mmm) And then I, I came to realize that it was just misdirected and that (mm hmm) those feelings did exist and those those impulses were there. Uhm, and I remember I came out to my mom on the phone in Whole Foods waiting for a sandwich (ahahahha) and called her (Carin: perfect, that's perfection) and you're just having like a regular conversation. And I was like, Oh, hey, by the way, I have a girlfriend now and she's like, okay, (ahah) which was she's wonderful. Thank you, Ellen. (uhm) Love you Ellen. Love you, Ellen. And then I had to go to rehearsal where I saw Cameron uhm and it was just like the most not big deal thing ever. Which I'm again, so grateful for.
This is incredible. You know? (Rachel: Yeah.) How much younger are you than me? Are you 20 years younger than me?
oh my God, I should be your mom We never discussed this (ahahahha) I think we look more like sisters than I think we were mom, but I could be your mom. Okay (Rachel: you could)
This is very different than my experience. Right? Like I don't I can't even remember how much I've talked about this on my PurposeGirl podcast. This might really be the first time I'm talking about all of this. But i-in this particular way, I've said that I had a girlfriend in high school, but I would have been mortified if my parents had found out (mmh) When I was in high school, and I was just talking about this with someone who's my age, one of our PurposeGirl clients, we were just talking about this. Because her amazing work, Jenny Rochelle, she is all about feeling sexy and beautiful again after betrayal. And so, we were talking about my betrayal, which did happen with with my first girlfriend. My first and only girlfriend. When I started having feelings for her, she and I were talking about how different the world was then, because I was in high school. So 16, 17 This is 30 years ago. (Oh) Thirty years ago, and no one went to prom with someone of their same gender. (Yeah.) No one went as a group. So it wasn't even (mm hmm) like it, right? I'm guessing when you went to all the dances or whatever, people could go as groups like, (mm hmm) I love that this is a, this is a thing now. Or that you had a gay straight Alliance Like what? That did not exist in my high school. (yeah) That was nowhere. And in fact, when I was in fifth grade, or sixth grade, I think it was six. Someone started a rumor about me that I was a lesbian. As if it was like, Carin's a murderer (worst) is (ahahahha) the worst. And what's funny is then I hadn't like, I hadn't thought about liking girls, like, I don't even know where that came from. But it was like, if if someone had said, you know, Carin's wearing the same pair of underpants, and she stinks for like, a week or like she's a murderer or something. So that didn't exist when I was younger. And so I would have probably rather died than my parents or my siblings. (Yeah) finding out that I had a girlfriend or friends. In fact, I went to (ah) in the middle of when I was with her, I started going to a different high school. And I tell people I had a boyfriend named Lee.(mmm) When in fact, her name was Lisa (mmh). That's, and and I, I will take my own responsibility that society was like that. Yes. And I didn't have the ovaries that I have today, it'll be like, Yeah, fuck all of them. Like, this is who I am. I also then didn't know who I was. Right? Like you're saying you didn't really know what it meant with Cameron. So, you know, my situation was, I had this best friend, Lisa and she one day stop talking to me. Like, all of a sudden out of the blue and what do we think as girls when our best friend starts talking to us? Like what did I do wrong? (right) (ahahahhaha) Oh my God, why are you mad at me? What did I do wrong? (right ehehehehe)
Don't hear like two weeks? She like ghosts me. Not that that was a term then. And then she shows up at the pizza restaurant I was working at- Buddy's pizza. Any of you who are from Detroit? Yeah. And with a letter, and she writes in the letter, blah, blah. I love you. Like, I love you, too. Exactly like you were saying like what we do (right) back and forth with girls. And she's like standing there and reading this letter. And she's like, No, no, like, I really love you. And then it was probably like another six months of like, exploration. What does that mean? And I never really said oh, well, this means even though we started a relationship, a an emotional and physical sexual relationship. I still wouldn't have said that I was gay, I certainly wouldn't have used the word queer cause that wasn't a word that we used then (mm hmm), at least in that context. I didn't have a label, and I really didn't worry about it. I consider myself I'm totally I, you know what, Rach? I knew I was so straight, quote, unquote, that I just figured one day she would get a sex change and become a man and then we could be together. (There you go) (hahahahaha). That's really what I used to think like, Oh, well, for us to be together. She's just become a man because she likes women and I like men and that'll be cool. So (great) great. So it was such a different experience. And when I was, when I did want to go to prom, and homecoming and all the things with boys. And I was sexually, like interested and attracted to boys and so I broke up with her. You know this, I'm pretty sure that's when she started hitting me. Yeah, right. So that was her way of keeping me in the relationship was to physically abuse me, to pinch me, to hit me. And so that was, I had like a really messed up year with that. And what I now know is that all of that combined made me very messed up about my sexual identity. (hahahaha) (Understandably so) because then I ran as far away from women as possible. Like First of all, I'm like, I'm straight. That's not even a question. I never wanna told anybody but then even when 10 years later, I actually was at a, a rally for domestic violence and I saw a woman speak at the rally about how her partner - her, her female partner hit her. I remembered what Lisa had done to me. And even then, when I started, like, Okay, wait a minute, this is a truth of mine. What happened? It's only, I would say in the last 10 years that I've really owned my sexuality and understanding, oh, I can be attracted to men or women emotionally. I'm super attracted to women, physically, I'm super attracted to men. If something doesn't work out with Josh, which, I don't imagine that would be the case but if whenever, (right, ehehehe) like, I will be totally open. Yeah, but that, I mean, that's been a 30 year journey. (Yeah.) Right?
And it's, it's beautiful that you were willing to begin exploring that 30 years ago, because there are so few people. And I think part of the reason why the image of what means to be gay, are to men, you know, up until I think, pretty recently is because it was so even more stigmatized for women to be gay. (mm. mm hmm) Especially when you were in high school, you know, like, I think, I mean, there's still so much stigma now. But like, it's really, I think, even the generation after me, Gen Z is like the first generation that is really, you know, kind of just throwing all of that out the window and just being like, you know, truly, love is love.
Truly, and and let's not even have a label. So one of my closest friends, her daughter is 13 and had a conversation with her parents. I don't know what I am, like, she's got a couple friends who identify as queer. She has a friend who's trans. And she just told her parents I don't know. And I don't really wanna put a label on it. Like, (yeah) hallelujah, sister. (hehehehe) Can we just not put a label on it? So, I in understanding my own sexuality, and then really like diving into this, I've really come to believe that we're on a spectrum. (Yeah) very few people are all the way at one end, or the other end, the majority (yea) of us, I believe, are somewhere on that spectrum.
Totally agree. Totally agree. And it's interesting, because, okay, I'm gonna get up on the soapbox now (be like). (ohh, hahahaha).
I've been waiting for it. (hahaha) Turn Me On with, you know I love a woman who speaks her mind, go for it (ahahahaha). By the way, by the way, Rachel showed up in the cutest shirt today, she shows up for our interview in a shirt that says empowered women, empower women. Fuck Yeah,
it's true. It's true. It's true. Okay, so for those of you who don't know, LGBTQ, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender questioning, and then there are over the years have been a handful of additional letters tacked on the end but I would say that those are probably like the core set, right? I think something is going to change in the way that we represent queerness in the future, because when LGBT was put together, the conversation between sexuality and gender has not really begun. (mm mm hmm). And in theory, I completely support in 100%, like, my whole being support all of the people who are trans, questioning, in transition, who are trans. And also, I imagine that as time goes on, it becomes more and more confusing to have the gender conversation combined with the sexuality conversation. And that is the reason that I identify as queer because, sure, there are physical attributes to the person that I ultimately want to, like, have a romantic connection with. However, you know, there could be someone who identifies as a man who has a pussy, and what does that mean about my sexuality? If I say that I'm a lesbian,(mmmh) if they identify as a man, it feels like giving away my power and my identity by saying I 'm, I identify as someone who is attracted to people who identify as something else. You know what I mean?
(Mmh) I do know what you mean. I do know what you mean. And if someone is sitting there, because everyone is kind of in a different place of learning and education and a- I don't know even like a 10th of what you do and all that so you're you're really helping all of us right now. Me included. If if you're out there and you're going okay, how can a man have a pussy, it's someone who is born (right?) their born gender was female, and they they don't know, in their heart, soul, everywhere, that (right) they're a man, and so they may or may not as as a trans male, may or may not go ahead and get surgery to change from pussy to penis. (Right?) Right. And that is possible. People don't realize that is possible. Yeah, I actually (gosh) I'd have to look this up but I saw an article about a couple where the man was having the baby and the woman was the support and that's because the woman had a penis and the man had a pussy. But they each, (Yeah) so, so they have their gender, their birth gender, am I saying that the right way? Right? Like, please correct (yeah) me like, I wanna know the right way to say these things. uhm, you know,in in the most open way,
born female born man or male and
(male born male. Okay, got it) So, so it's totally possible. (Yeah) right. Okay, so, so I get it. The other thing you just said LGBTQ, I always thought the Q was for queer. So it's for questioning?
I think that there's like some flexibility. It could be for questioning, it could be for queer. uhm, but I've always really appreciated thinking of it definitely as both. But as questioning, because there are so many people who, for so much of their life, you know, even if you date men as a woman for your entire life, but you're like, man, like there is something there, you still get to be a part of the community. (mm hmm) You know, like, and I think one of the most beautiful parts about being in this community is how wide it's willing to spread its arms, for the most part, (mmh) you know, certainly there are some picky people (aheheh) as as, as is in all communities, but, you know, like, there's something really beautiful about how willing queer people are to accept people of all at all of the different phases of their identity certainty. (mmmh) You know? (hmm)
Yeah, and it's so beautiful, so beautiful, which I really hope that what we're seeing and and we'll continue to see then is a shift where there's an automatic belief that everybody is like hetero right? (mm hmm), to an automatic belief that everyone has their own love and will love. And then some people like, you, we need to come out as straight just need to come out (right) as anything else?
So Rach then ha- how do we define queer? What does that actually mean?
I mean, I think that that's really kind of up to each individual. In my mind, the definition of queer is anything but straight. (mmmh) You know, because there are so many different, there's so many different ways that someone can identify, and that can change over time. You know, like, the first time that I came out, I was like, Okay, I'm fine. You know, like, I have slept with men my entire life up until this point, like, I can't imagine I'll never sleep with men ever again, which like, like I just said, like, in theory, I wouldn't sleep with a man as long as he had a pussy like that. That's an important (hahaha), an important part of it for me (hahahaha).
Say it Rachel (ehehe), (uhm)
um, you know, but it took me time to realize that, (mm hmm) you know, and I think that there are a lot of people, you know, I hear stories, all the time of someone coming out as a lesbian, and then realizing, oh, no, I'm actually a straight trans man. (mmmh) You know, that is the kind of there's, there's so many different permutations of what it means to be queer.
Right? And it's individual, right? (yeah). So it's like, I love your definition, it's just anything other than than being straight. And I really believe most of us are on a spectrum. You know, someone was thinking about coming to the Miami retreat (mmh), and saw pictures from my past Miami retreats of me just, there's tons of pictures of me holding a woman's cheeks, looking at her in the eyes, where we are, you know, three centimeters apart. We're hugging, like, we're never gonna let go. And she said, wow, you know, it's intimate like asking me Is this like a sexual? And I said, No,(no) this is just, you know, women have the capacity to just love (mm hmm) and men have the capacity to love too (it's different though), you know, yeah, there is an emotional connection. Right? And, and I go back thousands of years, we'll go hundreds, thousands, whichever you want to go and women were each other's companions. Yeah, women were each other's everything while men went off to war. Right and that's not so long ago. Now. Women obviously go off to war too, and, and our our trans brothers and sisters, but there was a time it was really men went off to war (mm hmm). And then, you know, that's in kind of more modern day war of the last hundred years. But if we go several hundred years ago, thousand years ago, men were off, they were hunting. (mm hmm) They were to war over some sort of fiefdom kingdom situation (ahahaha). And whatever that is, (right) And women were in the community together, raising each other's children, cooking together and I'm sure connecting in many ways, intimate ways, whether it was sexual or not. And for some, it probably was, and for some, it probably wasn't (Absolutely) Women, when we had our periods. Women were petting our hair. I would love to go into our red tent today where, you know (ahahha), period, you and the other goddesses, you're just like, you're rubbing my feet, right? You're like, holding me, like, that's 10 times better than Oh, I just gotta get to work. And I got to get the diapers and I got. Like, oh, so there's this like intimacy and connection. And I really just believe we're all on the spectrum. (Yeah) you know your story. So interesting, Rach. I had the opposite where Lisa and I reconnected at like, the 10 years later, when I realized, Oh, my God, you used to beat me and we went through a process of of discussing it, and forgiveness. And then we actually hooked up (huh). We were like, in our, (mm hmm) we were in our late 20s. And we were at the point where then we would have intercourse, (yah) in my hetero normative sexual, previous sexual relation, (right) And I had a moment of, Oh, I like having sex with a man. (Hmm) I like having sex with a woman too but it was it was just an interesting moment. It answered a question for me of Am I a straight or a lesbian? It's like, Oh, no. Okay. (e-) I get, I get where I fall now.
Yeah, that's such an important (I fall either way. Right?) Yeah. That's such an important moment to have and I think there's also such stigma, especially in the bisexual community, which like, you can tell me if I'm, I don't mean to speak for you but I feel like when people outside the community, look at the bisexual community, they say, oh, the stereotype is like- you like men and you like women equally. But frequently, there is a preference. You know (mmh), there's a spectrum even within, like, the little, the little communities of the bigger queer community. You know?
And I actually, you know, I can't speak for anyone else. And, you know, like I said, we'll see, you know, even being married to Josh, we've been to, we went to a sex party, and I kissed a woman and it was like, oh, this is yummy and delicious. So, you know, who knows in, in (right) the future, and there's just an it's an okay, I like both kind of a (yeah) situation. And I just love this idea that we don't have to have a label. It's like, are you at the creek? Have we talked? We have not talked about Schitt's Creek, but I loveSchitt's Creek. Okay, so you know, the scene about the red wine and the white wine?
Yes, it's like the most revolutionary thing.
I'm gonna put a link, I'm gonna put a link in the show notes to this specific scene. And it's the most beautiful thing, go watch it if you have no idea what we're talking about. (hehehe) Yeah, explain it Rach.
So, David Rose, who is presenting rather flamboyantly throughout the entire show (uhm). And this lovely woman Stevie, who they become like very close friends, and like, also trying not to give any spoilers. So spoiler alert, I'm gonna I'm gonna skip ahead like 30 seconds if you don't want a Schitt's Creek spoiler. There's one passionate night in which the two of them hook up. And the next day, they're in a liquor store. And there's tension between them. And so Stevie finally is like, Can we talk about last night? And David is like, sure. And she's like, up until last night, I had thought you only prefer red wine. And then he's like, Oh, I I dabble in reds, and whites. And the, like, the innuendo there is that she was saying, like, I thought that you were gay. I thought you only liked red wine. And he's like, no.
(coz she's like) I like red wine. Right? (Right. Right, right). You also only like red wine, (like red wine). And then he has this hilarious. He's like, and sometimes I have a nice rosae. You know, (right) he's like, right at times. I like a Cabernet that used to be a Chardonnay.
Right? Exactly. And he ends it beautifully by saying I like the wine up the label. Does that make sense? And she says yes, it makes perfect sense which it's like it's such a great scene and David's character is so wonderful because his queerness is not his main focus, which is so unusual in television.
Right, right, right. No, no, it's true. They do a beautiful job in that show of, of speaking to their, his, his relationship and relationships, as an LGBTQ man. as a as a pan, he's pan, right? Yeah. Which, if you're not familiar with that term, I wasn't until maybe a couple of years ago. It means you can love anybody. Right? So that they do a beautiful job with him and who he is in his relationships, where it's totally accepted, and loved and the norm is to, (yeah) of course, accept him without that being the storyline. It's so good (right, that's so good.) So good. So what's so interesting Rach, is that you and I found each other? (Of course, we did) Right. And I don't think we I mean, of course we did. But I don't think when you found me, you knew Oh, she's bisexual. She's like, been in these relationships, or she's gonna get me a little bit more like, whatever those those things are. And we've had a wild year. (Yeah) like, people out there. You know, I'm guessing that they're curious. Like, what's it like to work in PurposeGirl land?
Oh, my goodness, it's so fun. It is the most fun job. Uhm, getting to work with Carin is a constant, state of like, spontaneity and creativity. Like, I never know what I'm gonna wake up to the next morning.
And I was just gonna say, what she gonna say , because we know (hahahha) I am who I am, what you get on the show is who I am. So there, I might be so high, and I might be crying, and I might be raging. So (hahahha)
I'm here for all of it. (You are) Carin is like the most creative, empathic, driven, caring, charismatic, like, inspirational person that I've ever met. And (ugh) being able to support this work is like such a joy. More than that, like there aren't words, there aren't words for it. Like, there's a moment. (ay) So for those of you who have not had the opportunity to take one of her programs, most of them I sit in and participate to some capacity, and I DJ and whatever. (hahahaha) But there's always a moment where I can tell when a woman is in a program, when she's like, finally gotten, like when Carin has like, poked her soul. Like, there's a (moment) moment that like she, like pre Carin and post Carin (mmh). And they're they are, like genuinely different people afterwards, there's like this magic that I get to see happen. (hmm) And it's like the same kind of magic that I loved working when I worked in theatre like that was the reason that I liked to be a stage manager is like, I loved watching the audience receive that magic, receive the art, (mmh) receive the joy and the love. And I get that here, too. (hmm). You know,(mmh) like, there is this (wow) gift that you have to transform people. Not even that, I take that back, you have this gift to give people the tools to transform themselves. (mmh) And 'cause, frankly, at the end of the day, like you have the best job, like you get to sit there and like dance and rage and like cheer people on and like challenge them. And they do all the work. You know?
Okay, well, first of all, I received. Thank you. I'm like really taking in your observation, right? Because you're talking about what you observe.(mm hmm) And I'm really honored. Thank you. Thank you. I'm so uhm I'm so taken by that, that I forget what I was going to say next. (hehehe)
Well, I'll jump in and say something else too, because I have this really unique experience of not only being able to work with Carin, but I also had the honor of being in like a student of hers because I was (mmh) in her positive psychology course these last nine months. And she did such a wonderful, she gave me such an incredible gift in so many ways with this course. But the biggest one was that she really allowed me to be a participant of it- like she really kept work and and school (hehehhe) separate. Not that I thought you wouldn't and you know, everyone in the course knows that we work togethe but you gave me the opportunity to really be able to be on the receiving end of all of (mmh) that magic and I, I feel it like you have like I got, I, I even saw in my own self, that moment of pre and post Carin, even in the camp program. You know, like, I I'm presenting my cap project on Tuesday and like, (I know) (ahha) I'm so excited, (so proud
like a proud Mama, oh my gosh) (hahahaha). Well, and you have this interesting vantage point because your mom is one of my clients. (mmhmm) Right? You're really seeing from all angles, PurposeGirl. Yeah, it works. It really works. (Awe) yeah. I it's a huge I know, I'm not your only client. And it's a huge honor that you, like, would send your mom to me (of course). But like, I really, really, really take that seriously. And what we've done over the last year is nothing short of miraculous. (True) and I'm so clear like, this would not have happened without you. Like, just as a recap for all of you, in the last year, I had a baby and took three months off. Rachel came in during that time. We held not one but two Goddess on Purpose classes. And I think had 20 women taking the DIY version of that, right? So we launched that. We launched the world's largest Women's Day event.
(We did in eight weeks, hahahaha). That's what she's that's when she's like, Carin is the most spontaneous, creative, I'm like, Oh God, and crazy. I'm crazy. I'm crazy, and I so appreciate (But that makes you good at your job.) (Oh, thank you ehehe) That's why I need people like you. So we launched this huge event. I'm like, we're gonna do this thing. And it's an eight weeks right because the date of international women's day is the day with 25 speakers, 2500 women registered 12 hours of programming, We then held our largest Goddess on Purpose class, we have held our Goddess on Fire mastermind and now have one cohort for that field and the next one almost failed. You came up with a whole new idea for a program called Goddess of Goddesses, which is one woman who is gonna work with me for an entire year and do all the things, right? like come on the Miami retreat, come on the Paris retreat, work with me every single week, get to be in my mastermind, get to be a speaker at the Women's Day Event so that we like take her purpose so big And and we have our Goddess of Goddesses, right? (wee hee!) So she has signed up (ha ha). And we have an almost full Miami. Like seriously people there's only a few spots left. Like if you're sitting there and you've been thinking about this Miami retreat, we'll talk about it in a minute. Like, I don't know what you're waiting for. Like, if you're waiting for an invitation. This is your invitation cuz it's gonna be so freakin good. We're gonna talk about it. (We're gonna give you so many hugs) So many hugs. So, I mean, we've had a really big year we've I think we've doubled PurposeGirl income already. (Well-bragged), thank you. And you are huge piece of it Rach. (Thank you for saying that. It's an honor. ) A huge piece of it. I seriously, like you all don't even know. I am who I am. Who you hear on this is who I am. And so, you know, I'm honest about my anxiety. So I will get massive anxiety and Rachel's job has in addition to like, doing all the social media and planning the big event is like talking me off a ledge when the anxiety is (hehehhe) getting the rest of me (hahahha). Right? I mean, you're like, coach, support, friend, all of it.
I mean it goes two ways, though, you know, like, you had a baby last year, and I went through a really serious breakup and move to a new city and moved apartments. And it you know, I moved to Oregon right before (uhm) all of the fires and the protests started (oh right, five minutes before in). Yeah. You know, so like, I went through a breakup with the person I moved here with. (ehehhee) We live together and we were the only two (right) people that we knew in Portland. I went through a breakup, the week before the Women's Day event, and I didn't even tell you that it happened because I didn't wanna take you away from it but I knew you knew so we just talked about it later. (hahahaha)
We're kind of talking around it, right? Yeah, like you okay, Rach?. You know, yeah, I'm doing just fine, (right hahaha). Just a thing though, about the difference in kind of old. The old paradigm of business and the femine, the Divine Feminine paradigm of business.
We're not here to just put our boots dressed on and pretend that we're not humans like, yeah, we don't want any part of that. I don't want any part of that on PurposeGirl, we're humans, we have real emotions. We have real highs, we start every staff meeting with wins and meditation. And we often end in dance parties, like, (true) we wanna, this is being fucking real. And for how many years have women like hid who they really were and, but showed up at work and, and that doesn't work, right? (yeah) I'd rather like, let's be who we really are, let's put it all on the table, let's help each other through it. And then let's fucking exponentially expand and accelerate and change this world. Because (yeah) we're being real. (Right) And having a fucking fabulous time doing it.
Totally. And that doesn't mean that it isn't hard. We don't work hard, (right?) you know? (Oh my god), we work really fucking hard. Carin is one of the hardest working people I know, she shows up so well for the hundreds of people who she spends live energy with, let alone the thousands and thousands of people who she indirectly touches or who watch recordings or listen to this podcast. And she somehow does all of that by by 3pm so that she can go be like the best mom. Like, and somehow has like more energy than I do. (ehehehe)
Like am I 30 years older than you? No, I'm 20 years older than you. No, I'm going to be 26 in October. Oh, that's so cute. I'm gonna be 47. Really? My wait. Oh, no, my mom got married at 21 she had a baby at 20. But like, plenty of people listening to this had a baby at 21. So I really can't be your mom.(yeah). That's so funny. (That's okay.) Uhm, So I'd love to hear from you. Like, where do you see PurposeGirl going?
Oh, my goodness. I mean, in terms of like the tangible because i think i think the real magic of PurposeGirl is in the intangible. But if we're talking about the tangible, I cannot possibly fathom that 2022 won't be a million dollar revenue year. By the trajectory that we're on, there is such a huge acceleration in all of the ways. I cannot imagine that that will not happen with like a lot of ease. I'm very, very certain of it. Uhm, and I'm really, really excited to share all of these ideas that I have of how we can get there because I have so many and just don't have the capacity right now. (ahahaha) To be able to execute on them. So if you do social media, please email me. (hahahaha)
Right? I mean, let's actually talk about this for a minute. So yeah, purpose girl is hiring. (Woohoo) Woohoo! We have one job already posted, one soon to be posted. The job that's already posted is the Social Media Manager. (Yeah) And in a nutshell, Rach, what do you, what are you looking for For that?
I'm looking for someone who is able to repurpose contents from our Power Up with PurposeGirls, which is that Wednesday teaching that Carin does every week, who can snag some really juicy stuff from the podcast episodes, who can take clips from a variety of different places, turn them into brilliant copy. uhm for social media stuff. We want to have someone who can really help us grow and reach in our reach, so that we can touch more people's lives and uhm really make bigger impact in that way. It really is all about making huge impact. So reaching more people, changing more lives, inspiring more people, giving them the tools to live the lives that they find fulfilling and exciting and juicy and fun. Uhm and all of the good things. (hehehehehe)
You just use all my favorite words. (I know, I know, Yeah, right.) (hahahaha) Fulfilling juicy fun. Yeah, (haaah) yeah. Yeah. So we are actively hiring a social media manager. And ahh we think it'll be around seven to 12 hours a week. So you (yeah)might just like say, estimate 10. But, (yeah) you know, if that's you, and you love social media, all the ways and you listen to this podcast and you like hear, you're the one who's taking tons of notes and you hear little clips and you're like, that should be a quote she puts on social media Oh, this would be and you love doing that. And you also you know, bonus if you know how to grow accounts, or at least you're interested in figuring out how to grow accounts (yeah). Like you know, Rach started with like, where when I asked Where are we going with PurposeGirl and Rach you know, you started with with a dollar amount. And I think my next episode should be about money. Because I don't think I've shared that whole (yeah) thing yet on the podcast, but I've really been feeling into you know, it was never about the money for me. (yeah) It's always been about the impact always been about I want to, you know, I wanna inspire millions of women, I want millions of women to like fucking be rocking it out. Totally. And I've been realizing lately that AI deserve to earn well for that. right? For my own family and like, and that I've been like skeevy about money and fuck that. They're men are not skeevy about money, not all men, but there are a lot of men who are not skeevy about money, and they help each other make more. (yeah) And that what I really want are women running this world. I want women running the companies, running the governments, what right because I believe(hell yeah) that women are, it's gonna be a hell of a lot more compassionate, loving, open world. And I want us all talking about money. Yeah, so I'm seeing I'm gonna do a whole episode on the money thing. But I'm seeing that like, so PurposeGirl making a million dollars, right? We get to hire more people then, right? (yeah) Now we're employing more people. Totally. PurposeGirl making that money, I get to give more. Yeah, right. And, and for every dollar that PurposeGirl makes, I see that as one woman whose life that she is stepping into her purpose. And then therefore the ripple effect on her kids, her family, her work in the world, her going on being a purpose girl, and how many people she's going to impact and so I really want us like to own that and, and shift it (totally). So I'm like there in a different, different way. So it's impact and contribution for that impact, all the above. So we've got that job. I know coming up, there will be an admin position we're gonna be hiring for,
yes, sneak peek into the future, everybody for listening to the podcast (ahahaha), we're gonna be looking for someone to help us with administrative tasks. So traditional scheduling stuff, for sure. But then there's also some special PurposeGirl things that, you know, will require good attention to detail and some thoughtfulness in terms of communication with clients and all of that juicy goodness. uhm.
Okay, so hiring is something we're like really excited about, because (yeah) we just want to grow our impact, right? We just want to get (yeah) all the things we have like things. I can't wait to hear your ideas, by the way, because Rachel's ideas are like, fucking bang out amazing ideas. So if I don't even know all your ideas, (it's true) right? Like, I know my ideas. I, I'm ready to start having big in person events. Like, yeah, I'm ready to have an auditorium where we have 100 200 300 women in the auditorium for a weekend, on our chairs, everybody like screaming Yes. to their purpose. Screaming yes to like, being an imperfect mess that like does the damn thing anyway. (mm hmm) Giving as many hugs as, as we can. Yeah, it's like, claiming her part in running the world. So I know, that's a big piece of where I wanna go. Yeah. And I'm just excited to hear what you have. And we have immediate things. Yeah, right. There's So much good stuff coming out. Oh, my gosh. Okay, so Miami. Yeah, going to Miami. Oh, my gosh.
So Carin, and I will both be in Miami. (aaahh) So if you come to Miami, we'll be able to have like a three way hug and it will be so exciting. Oh my god, I love the three way, i love the three way (hahahahahaha)
So, back to our original topic. I love the three ways. So tell me, what are you most excited about for Miami?
I'm excited to give you a squeeze. (Yeyyy!), and it'd be really good. Uhm, (That will be good.) I'm excited. I feel like I've been like writing so much. I write so much of the copy for all of everything (ahahaha). And so I'm like, getting myself to stop talking about all of the really exciting things that I've never done before as if I totally have done them, like a hundred times (hahahahaha)
Right? Because, I mean, I've done I've done a goddess retreat in the Versace mansion many times, but you will have not (no) 'cause last year would have been your first year but it was COVID and I was pregnant. So
right. So I'm really excited to like, be in like, your energy, not to, like steal the language that we're using. But like I'm excited to be in your energy and like, be able to support you. You know, like I that's one of the things that I so love about my job is like the day that I realized that my strength and my gift was being an exceptional number two (mmh) to like an exceptional like front facing number one, like being someone's right hand, like my whole world changed. So like I love being able to show up and support you and like be in all of the goodness without being the face of it all. (mmh) Like, I love that so much and so like I really thrive. So so like my energy just explodes when I get to be able to do that kind of stuff. So like I'm so excited to to just like be in that space with you.
This is so good. I'm so excited too and we're having a slumber Party. (yea, I'm so excited) I'm actually leaving Josh and Shea (yeheyy!) for a couple nights (hahaha) slumber party and that's gonna be so fun. So y'all want to come and party in our room a little bit of that needs to go to bed but like, you don't even know like, I I have like, a home I downloaded like, literally download from the divine, whole new exercise having to do with the ocean and our dreams. Oh my gosh, I'm so excited. Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, like, because I was seeing the ocean, like carry out our dreams, like the beach front of Miami, that part of the ocean, if we scream our dreams into the ocean, and then they get carried out to the fucking world through that ocean like so I've got my (hisss) . I know. I know (hahahaha). Like, I've been downletting, like, Oh, wait, Okay, tell me goddess, what are we doing then Oh, Goddess, what are we doing then and like, so the goddess then speaks to me and is giving me all these ideas. My gosh, it's gonna be so good. It's gonna be so so so good. So I'm so excited for it. And we have an extremely like, full group of women coming. Yeah. And so few slots left. Right. there's so few spots left. And we're just keeping it open for a couple women just, I think for another 10 days, like just (yeah) to the end of the month. As of right now on the recording, even when you're listening to this, it'll be right remember, (ra ra right) right when you're listening, it's just gonna be a week. So whatever. Like, seriously, what would be holding you back at this point? What would be holding someone back from like just joining us on that?
I definitely think perhaps there's some COVID fear. Or like for many people, this might be the first time that they're doing something social without their COVID bubble or family.(uhm, Oh, my heart,) which I totally understand. It's scary. Yeah, totally. And also, we are doing everything that we possibly can to make you feel safe and well taken care of and to ensure that everyone stays healthy. uhm.
Yes. I think another objection that (Seriously?) Yes. (alright, go ahead).
No, she can say we're taking it very seriously. I've had people really disappointed that they wanna come but because I've made it vaccinated only and saying I'll wear a mask. I'll show you that I don't have, I'll take a COVID test. And I love all of you out there. It's not a judgment thing. It's just me needing to make a call. Like Yeah, needing to make.
we don't want you to have to wear a mask in August, in Miami.
no, like you cant wear a mask when you eat. Like you can't wear a mask when you eat. Like that's not even possible. So I just had to make a call for this very wacky, wonky year. Yes, you keep as many people safe as I can. And the vaccine seemed to be the way to do that. Right? You were gonna say another, another fear. Maybe spending the money,
the money, or just like I think, you know, you had a really wonderful episode. I think two episodes of the podcast ago about just like not feeling worthy of being able to leave all of the things you know, for a lot of people especially like Mamas. August is like, kind of when schools starting up again and like, oh, like I cant leave my family like, right as things are wrapping back up for, you know, the New Year? Uhm, And the answer is yes, you can and you should
Right, The answer is actually that you need to (right), you know, one of the women who just signed up this week, incredible woman love her. Her son is going to college the day after. (hahahaha) And she's actually a single mom, and her ex husband has you know, is a good father but has never done any of for for the entirety of her son's life has never done any of the you know, school shopping or like any of that (right). She's been in charge of all the all the all the details. And she said to them, I'm so proud of her. She said Aren't you two are in charge? Yeah, whatever, you don't have a college like, I guess you'll just go to the Amazon, you know, you'll like go on Amazon. Or you'll like, go to CVS and you'll buy more toilet paper and it'll be fine. But she realized, like, I need to go for me. Yeah, because I'm, I'm better. I'm a better mom. I'm gonna be in a better place when I drop you off at college. Yeah, that I have filled up on joy. I have filled up on purpose. I have, like, taken care of myself and elevated myself. Not to mention, she's been. We've been doing private work together too. And she's discovered her purpose and she's now starting her own coaching, her own health coaching, certification and business and it's so incredible. Her son, her 19 year old son, she's been bringing him in (mmh) to like, see what she's doing and help her with some of the technology aspects and he's like, Mom, this is so admirable schooling, if you're there and you're the I can't get away from my kids, I actually need you to hear that you need to go away from the kids because when you do for you, they're watching. Yeah, they're watching and they're learning and what they're learning is about following your own dreams, about taking care of yourself, about really like, elevating. So you, you actually need to, it's the opposite. And if it's about money and worth issue, a couple of things, one, I've offered extended payment plans to people. So like, let's just take money off the table, okay? Like, I'm not gonna let any woman not be able to come. So we're just gonna extend your payment plan, let's just take that issue off the table.
I believe in you to make the money, like what I know happens at this retreat. Even if you don't feel like you have the money now, what I actually know because I've done this retreat now four or five times, is that women leave so confident that they go make more money, like literally, I've had many women leave, and go get promotions at work because they're like, fuck this, I'm worth more. Here's my proposal, because they came on this weekend retreat with me at the Versace mansion. And I've had women (I'm so excited) then start their own side hustles. Yeah, make money like so I just want you all to know, I believe in you. And the question is, why don't you believe in you? I also for the record, believe in you. (hahahaha) (yes of course). We believe in you. So why don't you believe in you and like, that's the very reason you need to come. We wanna, we wanna show you the How to believe in yourself. And that 10 for Paris.(oh oh ok, what's coming up) is Paris. And I I know Rachel's gonna make a plug for her coming, right? (of course I am)
I'm coming to Paris. It's happening. (hahahahaha) (Sorry, if you dont want me to be there) It's alright, we need a certain number of women. No, I want you there (ahahahaha). I need a certain number of women coming for you (well, listen), there are two women who are already signed up as of recording right now. And we haven't even actually announced it yet. So I think I'm gonna come I'll buy my tickets tomorrow (ahahahaha). Okay. By the time you're listening to this, they will already have been open. We probably don't have any spots left but if we do the link is in the show notes. And please sign up. Yeah, it'll be really good to sign up (do it for me. ahahaha)
We have 10 spots. Here's the deal. 10 women can come, two spots already taken. So we have eight more spots. And we have a waitlist of 32 women. Yeah, so the two have already bought but are not even on that waitlist. uhm, like one is the Goddess of Goddesses, (hmm) the new program that we and the other is a woman who signed up for last year by accident. It was up on my website. And she signed up for when there was no Paris retreat because I was nine months pregnant and COVID and COVID (hehehehe). So she got she got first dibs to come in this year. So the eight spots will fill so when you're listening to this, go to the link in the show notes. It's actually mygoddess getaways.com. Miami and Paris are both at the same, that's now gonna be the home for all PurposeGirl Goddess retreats. (mm hmm mm hmm) So, um, what are you excited about with Paris?
Oh my gosh, well, my family is from Paris. So(hmm right) I'm really excited to like go back to the homeland. (have you been?) I was there a very, very long time ago, and I went on like one of these. I was not the kind of girl that liked sleepaway camp. And so when I was in high school, my parents were like, We need you to, we can't, we can't have you around this long. You need to go do something. And I was like, fine. I don't want to do summer camp, but I'll do like language and service immersion programs. I found this like really cool. Anyway, and one of them was uhm we hiked around Mont Blanc in the Alps. It took took 30 days.(ooh) It was really fun. (whoa) That's the story for another day (huuh that's amazing). We stopped in Paris on said hiking experience, but it was like we stayed in a hostel and like it wasn't the luxurious like romantic. Also, I was like, what, 14? Right? I couldn't drink like, I couldn't like go out at night. I couldn't like flirt with the other beautiful French women like you know, (hahahaha)
well. 14 You didn't even know that you like women. So it was a good day. Right? Right. So Okay, I got it. I got it. And right. So you stayed in a hostel? Not the beautiful goddess you guys had? We have so good. (ihihihi) We have rented a gorgeous goddess apartment for this retreat. Yeah. It's so good. It's really why Rachel wants to go there. She wants to find, you want to find beautiful French women and stay in the Goddess. Yeah, that's it. I don't blame you at all,. No I'm just kidding. (hahahaha) I know you you love supporting PurposeGirl and you love supporting PurposeGirls. I do. I mean you really do. It's obvious, everybody knows it. Everyone feels so helped by you. Thank you for saying that. Oh my gosh, they tell me all the time. All the time, Rachel's a keeper. I love Rachel, Rachel's so good. Rachel Rachel , (I love all of you so much.) It's true. Someone like me can't do what I do without you. Like it just, you know. And all of you out there, if you're like, you're starting down your purpose path, and you're doing it on your own and you're like, but I can't yet afford a Rachel. Right, actually Rach, what would you say to somebody who is in that place? They're more like me than you.
Yeah, I would say, find someone who isn't a Rachel to help support you until you can find a Rachel. Because having someone to take things off your plate, even little things opens up your ability to be more creative, to be more abundant, to think of new content ideas, to create the things that will grow your business to be able to then, you know, not to like pat myself on the back, but like to be able to afford someone who has high skill and high investment. You know, Carin pays me very well. And I'm incredibly grateful for that. And I also recognize that like someone who's just starting their business probably wouldn't be able or wouldn't want to pay someone, you know, the amount that Carin is paying me and that's totally fine. But it's not like an on or off switch, find someone who can help you do the tasks that like don't bring you joy, that don't get you juiced up, or find a way to automate it, you know, there are systems like honey book, or, or air table, or clickup or dubsado, Convert Kit, like there are things out there that can help you automate systems, you know, require a little bit of investment and time upfront, but, you know, there are ways to make it easier for yourself.
You know, I'm trying to remember when I first brought on my first assistant, I probably had been in business that was probably 20, maybe two years. Yeah. And I wish I had done it earlier. It makes and I think if if I had believed in myself, fully, maybe I would have been, it's like, how do I how do I hire someone when I am making no money? And it's the same I hear from people with coaching, like, how can I pay you as a coach when I'm not making money? And it's like, I totally get it. Because I felt that way about my coaches. And when I first hired an assistant and the whole thing, and it's this other way of thinking of like, How can I not hire someone when that person is actually going to get me to to make totally right, like, it frees me up so much. Yeah. to not have to get when I have to do like when it's the weekend and I just need to post my own stories. Like last night, I swear to God, I spent an hour and a half trying to post those stupid stories. And I mean, they're great stories, but like, I stupid meaning I was fighting with Instagram, right? Where's Rachel and I don't want to bother on a Friday night, I probably still send you an email like, Okay, get this to work.(hahahaha) I'm glad you didn't respond and or you're on a plane and everything else. But like, the amount of time and energy And like then me getting sucked into all that instead of spending that same hour and a half, either taking care of myself, being in my own joy juice, so that I have more of everything to serve you guys and serve my family. That hour and a half could have been like, dreaming up what we're going to do in Paris, and what we're gonna do in where's the next retreat gonna be? And are we going to go to Hawaii? Are we going to go to Puerto Rico? Like, where is he? Because I think I'm going to do a naked retreat next. Where's the home? Right? So where's that going to be? You know, I could have spent that hour and a half in a different way. If I had someone doing it, (right).(totally) So it's like, it's so important. So even if you just start with like, three hours a week,
totally. And even if you find someone you're like, hey, this person isn't right. For me, there are so many people out there. There's so many people out there totally different ranges of skill of cost, investment, etc. Like if the person that you first hire isn't working for you, try someone else.
Try someone else. So the position is not now now Rachel's my co Chief Operating Officer. But before I was a virtual assistant. If you're out there, you're starting out. That's the title you're looking for. You're looking for a virtual assistant. And Rachel actually has a company, That's true. "Hi almond" (hahahaha) where she has virtual assistants working under her, who could actually work with you. That's true. So if someone reaches like interested in Okay, I want I want what Carin's having. So let me just go right to Rachel.(ahahahha) Even if you can't afford Rachel herself as the CEO of her own business, she's got people. It's true. So what should I do, where should I go?
I will drop our website in the show notes of this podcast. (hahahah) uhm, And you can book a mutual pleasure discovery call with me and we can talk about the things that you want to create in your business, we can do a little dreaming together and we can figure out, uhm the best way that either me and my team can support you or I also really love to refer people who are not necessarily the perfect fit for us, uhm to other really wonderful diverse driven women entrepreneurs, who are doing similar work.
Okay, amazing. So Rach, it's a year from now things have gone even better, even juicy or even more delicious even more yummy, even more dynamic, even like more fulfilling, more abundant- for PurposeGirl and you, and life, and us then you could possibly imagine. Give it to me in present tense, like Tell me what's gonna happen? like, oh, life is so good PurposeGirls, so good that
okay, life is good. PurposeGirl has been like so incredible and abundant that like I've gotten a huge raise. Thank you so much, Carin (hahahaha). I love giving you raises, it turns me on to give you a raise. Ugh, my day to day work with Carin is just like getting to be able to juice each other up and like be excited and like send like delicious, lavish gifts to all of her clients. And like, every other week, we're like, talking about like, all of the incredible retreats that we're planning and like, we have already spent that like one whole month together in Paris, like, you know, (mmh) we stayed together for a whole month. It was so wonderful. That was great. Thank you so much for those incredible spa treatments that you (hmm) treated both of us to that was (oh) just like, incredible (hahahahaha). I love treating us to the spa. I love that. I hope that you enjoy like the beautiful flowers that I got you delivered. (huh) And uhm uhm
okay. But that's not future. She literally just sent me flowers yesterday.(hahahaha) I'm telling you, she's the best. I was in a cranky mood. I'm like, (huh) okay, the Paris website isn't done yet. What are we gonna do blah, blah. And then ding dong, and its flower delivery from Rachel. I'm like, she knows me so fucking Well, it's as if she was in the house and knew I needed flowers right now. Okay, this is so juicy. So uhm, what? So what this is telling me So first of all, all the things. I'm so excited, and I'm going to book us a spa treatment for Miami. (huh, Okay,) okay, we're just gonna live the dream right now. So fun. So fun. So fun. (oh my gosh) Okay, so good. All right. There's a million other things that I want to want to ask you could ask you because we obviously can talk for hours and hours, neither one of us realized where we were with time. I think this(ahahaha) is the longest episode we've ever had. And it's totally good and juicy. So I love you so much Rach. Thank you for being who you are, for being my number one cheerleader, for being my therapist, for being my right hand. Thank you for all that you do for my clients. For every podcast listener just for every single every single being in our community. Thank you for just your heart, your soul, your spirit, your pussy, your fucking everything. Thank you for standing on your soapbox so brilliantly, and passionately and unapologetically on behalf of our LGBTQ community, and just really on behalf of all humans, you're a fucking fabulous human and we are lucky that you are on this planet.
You're gonna make me cry. Thank you. Love you so much.
Love you. I love you more. No, I love you (nah ah nah ah nah ah). Don't you guys wanna come on retreat with us? This is what it's gonna be. We're just gonna be telling you how much we love you all the time. All right, all the time. So Rachel, thank you. Thank you. Thank you and everybody remember, check out hi almond if you're looking for a VA at any level, Rachel, she's got a team, she can help you out. And come on all the retreats with join our purpose girls Facebook community. Yes, come to Paris (hahahaha) like what the fuck are you waiting for? We are fucking fabulous. Get on board with us. If you like us on the podcast (claps), you're gonna fucking love us in person. Trust us. Okay. With that my love's Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for listening to this episode of the PurposeGirl podcast.
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