When you hear the word, “Power”, what do you think?
What do you feel?
Do you ever give up your power to be liked? To be accepted?
Recently, I had the opportunity to consult with a Fortune 500 company and when they asked for a lower price, I froze. My brain just turned off. I didn't even try to negotiate. I just gave up my power.
Do you ever give up your power? Maybe with your boss or mom or husband?
I see a lot of women (and men) give up their power to be liked or accepted. Maybe you're super powerful at work, but then completely lose your power in dating. Or you're super powerful at the gym, but then don't stand up for yourself to a bullish colleague or boss.
After I hung up with that company, I decided then and there to reclaim my power. I asked myself these questions:
*What does power mean?
*To whom have I given my power away? Why?
*What would it look like to stand in my power fully in integrity?
If you aren't standing in your power confidently, then underneath is fear. Fear of not being liked or loved or accepted. I realized in journaling that I have a love/hate relationship with the word, power. So many people abuse power that it can be ugly. I realized that I have struggled with the middle ground between being flexible (walked over) and being strong (bitchy).
The truth is that we haven't been taught a middle ground. We've been told to “be nice” and we've seen too many examples in society where strong women are called nasty. We ourselves have held it all in until we blow up in rage.
So I made a commitment to walk the middle: Integrity, Truth, Confidence. Feminine Power is embracing and offering your WHOLE self. It's internal beauty, visionary creativity, fierce strength and deep heart wisdom combined.
Standing in my whole power, I showed up completely differently on my next call with this Fortune 500 client and won the CEO over immediately. Even though we had agreed on the lower price for the first engagement, I already pitched follow up work and he loved the ideas!
So, how could your life change if you stand in your power? Would you negotiate a bigger salary? Finally open the business you've wanted? Write the book? Start dating? Ask for the promotion? Tell your husband your true needs?
Power is internal confidence. It's knowing that you're worthy not because of how you look or what you do, but because of who you are.
In this week's episode of the PurposeGirl Podcast, I explore a new definition of power, and I give you PurposePower Tips to stand in your true power. Download the Podcast episode here and together, let's be our most powerful selves and change the world.
In so much love,
PS – I'd love to hear your thoughts on power below!